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17 Promises I Choose to Live By : Then & Now

Posted on by rachaelathomasj

Truth be told this is my then followed by my now.

The then was created some 10 years ago:

My personal code of ethics: Statement of Purpose:

This is a personal guide which will serve as a source of inspiration and as a reminder of things I must always be mindful of, especially when I am faced with challenges. It will help me to realise my long-term goals and mirrors my beliefs and my values.

What function is this expected to serve in my life?

This will serve as a daily reminder of what I believe in and a source of encouragement that will help me to become a better well-rounded individual who endeavours to be happy, have peace of mind, and be the best that I can be. I sincerely promise to use the ‘I will’ list below to do that.

Personal Commitments

  1. I will remember, ‘Carpe diem!’ (Seize the day!) and let it be my motto.
  2. I will continue to treat others in the very same manner that I would like to be treated.
  3. I will continue to develop myself professionally.
  4. I will try to inculcate good values and morals in those I interface with (including those under my charge).
  5. I will always be mindful that some things cannot be changed; that is, not everything is within my reach, and I must accept them for what they are… simply, ‘Don’t worry about what you cannot change’ and ‘Qué sera sera!’ (Whatever will be will be).
  6. I will always thank God for my blessings. I have faced many challenges and overcome each of them—such as not being able to hold things, write properly at times, or walk properly. To date, I have 12 O’ Levels, 4 A’ Levels, a BA in English, and my BA in Mass Communication is my second degree. I have a full-time job now. I can look back and say I’m happy with some of the things I did and encourage others to turn their challenges into successes.
  7. I will continue to give credit where credit is due… everyone deserves to be appreciated.
  8. I will continue to move ahead with realistic goals. Thankfully, both my sense of maturity and being realistic have helped me value the relationships I build.
  9. I will continue to remember that everything happens for a reason… it makes it easier to walk around with less emotional baggage and eliminates chances of dumping it on others.
  10. I will continue fulfilling the responsibilities entrusted to me because shirking responsibilities means denying others their rights.
  11. I will always do my best in all that I do rather than giving up before starting or giving up in the middle of what I am doing because the end will be closer in sight.
  12. I will always look for something positive out of every negative experience, and I will use the ‘scissors of life’ to cut out negativity. Negativity breeds negativity and vice versa.
  13. I will use great care, consideration, and dedication to my values and morals to find amicable solutions to problematic situations and ethical dilemmas by always considering the consequences of my actions as it relates to all my dealings and those affected.
  14. I will focus on improving my health and try to get the required amount of rest because if I do not take care of myself, I cannot take care of anyone needing my help.
  15. I will continue to develop my spirituality and be a devotee of God.
  16. I will try to exercise good judgment at all times.
  17. I will review my personal code of ethics periodically and strive to make necessary improvements where possible.

This is my now: Living My Personal Code of Ethics

Life is about the values that guide you through both the highs and the lows. My personal code of ethics isn’t just a list I wrote once; it’s something I try to live by every day.

At the core of everything is a simple mindset: Carpe diem—seize the day. I try to make the most of every opportunity while remembering to treat others the way I would like to be treated. Respect, kindness, and fairness are not optional; they are the foundation of every meaningful interaction.

Growth is also important to me. I continue to develop myself professionally while encouraging and guiding those I interact with, especially those under my care. At the same time, I’ve learned to accept that not everything is within my control. Some things simply are what they are, and finding peace in that—embracing the idea of “what will be, will be”—has helped me tremendously.

Gratitude plays a huge role in my life. Despite the challenges I’ve faced, I remain thankful. Those experiences have shaped me, strengthened me, and allowed me to encourage others to turn their struggles into success. They remind me that resilience is built, not given.

As I move forward, I focus on being realistic, appreciating others, and valuing the relationships I build. I remind myself that everything happens for a reason, which helps me let go of unnecessary emotional weight and avoid passing negativity on to others.

Responsibility is another principle I take seriously. Fulfilling what is entrusted to me matters because failing to do so affects others. That’s why I always strive to give my best, even when it’s difficult, because every step forward brings me closer to the end goal.

I also make a conscious effort to find positivity in every situation. Life will always present challenges, but I believe in cutting out negativity and choosing a mindset that promotes growth and peace.

In dealing with others, I aim to act with care, integrity, and fairness. Ethical decisions aren’t always easy, but considering the impact of my actions helps me navigate even the most difficult situations.

Equally important is taking care of myself. I’ve learned that I cannot pour into others if I am running on empty. Rest, health, and balance are not luxuries—they are necessities.

My spirituality continues to guide me, grounding me in faith and helping me stay aligned with my values. Alongside this, I strive to exercise good judgment in all that I do.

Finally, I remind myself that growth is ongoing. I revisit my values, reflect on my actions, and make adjustments where needed. Becoming better is a continuous process, not a final destination.

Posted in Being Prayerful, Celebrating Existence, Life, Life lessons, Mindset, personal growth

The Importance of Mental Health

Posted on by rachaelathomasj

There are certain things in life that quietly shape who we are, yet we rarely stop to talk about them. Mental health is one of those things.

It influences how we think, how we feel, how we cope with challenges, and how we connect with the people around us. In many ways, it sits quietly at the center of our overall well-being.

Mental health is often misunderstood as simply the absence of illness, but it is much more than that. It is about emotional balance, resilience, and the ability to navigate life’s ups and downs. None of us move through life without moments of stress, sadness, uncertainty, or pressure. Those experiences are part of being human. What matters is how we learn to manage them and the support systems we have around us.

Mental health also exists on a spectrum. At different points in our lives, we may feel strong and confident, while at other times we may feel overwhelmed or uncertain. Personal experiences, family environments, friendships, school or work pressures, and even the communities we live in can influence how we feel.

Early experiences can have a particularly strong impact. Supportive families, caring friendships, and safe communities can help build resilience and confidence. On the other hand, experiences such as bullying, harsh treatment, or constant pressure can take a quiet toll on emotional well-being.

Today’s world also presents its own unique pressures. The pace of life, academic expectations, and the constant presence of social media can sometimes make it difficult to pause and simply breathe. While digital spaces can offer connection and support, they can also create comparison and unrealistic expectations that affect how people see themselves.

Yet despite how common these experiences are, conversations about mental health are still often surrounded by silence. Many people hesitate to speak openly about how they feel because they fear judgement or misunderstanding. Unfortunately, silence rarely makes things easier. More often, it allows struggles to grow in the background.

This is why awareness and open dialogue are so important.

Each year on October 10th, the world observes World Mental Health Day. It serves as a reminder that emotional well-being deserves the same attention and care as physical health. Schools, communities, and organizations often use this time to encourage discussions and activities that help break the stigma surrounding mental health.

One simple way to think about protecting mental wellness is through what some refer to as the five Cs: Care, Connection, Courage, Compassion, and Consistency.

Care reminds us to take time for ourselves and our well-being.
Connection highlights the value of meaningful relationships and supportive friendships.
Courage encourages us to speak openly when we are struggling.
Compassion calls for kindness toward both ourselves and others.
Consistency reminds us that healthy habits practiced daily can make a real difference.

Small habits often have a powerful impact. Getting enough rest, eating nourishing foods, balancing responsibilities with relaxation, and spending time on activities that bring joy—whether that is music, reading, art, or exercise—can help restore a sense of balance.

Mental health, however, is not only a personal responsibility. It is also shaped by the environments and systems around us. Schools, workplaces, communities, and governments all play a role in creating spaces that support emotional well-being. Policies, education, and accessible support services can make a meaningful difference in people’s lives.

Another important aspect of the conversation is suicide prevention, which remains a global priority. Efforts such as early support systems, responsible media reporting, and emotional education for young people continue to play a critical role in reducing risks and saving lives.

At the same time, there is growing recognition of the importance of protecting the mental health of children and adolescents. Support for caregivers, school-based programmes, and healthier online environments all contribute to building stronger foundations for future generations.

What is important to remember is that mental health does not follow a simple formula. Some people experience difficult circumstances and remain resilient, while others may struggle even when everything around them appears stable. The human experience is complex, and emotional well-being is shaped by many different factors over time.

Perhaps the most meaningful thing we can do is create a culture of understanding and empathy. When people feel safe to speak openly, when kindness replaces judgement, and when support replaces silence, communities become stronger.

Valuing mental health alongside physical health allows individuals to grow, learn, and reach their full potential.

And sometimes, the most powerful reminder we can offer each other is a simple one:
no one should ever feel that they have to face life’s challenges alone.

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Celebrating the Power of 1 Moment of Clarity

Posted on by rachaelathomasj

Sometimes all it takes is one moment—one blink of insight, one quiet nudge from within—to completely shift your perspective.

It doesn’t have to be loud. It doesn’t have to be dramatic. But it’s powerful.

Clarity often comes like a whisper in the stillness, breaking through the noise we’ve been drowning in for days, weeks, maybe even years. It may show up in the middle of a conversation, during a walk outside, while you’re journaling, or even as you simply sit in silence with yourself.

And suddenly, the fog lifts.

That one moment of clarity might be:

  • Realizing it’s time to let go of what no longer serves you.
  • Understanding that you’ve been enough all along.
  • Choosing peace over pressure.
  • Seeing a situation for what it truly is—not what fear made it seem.
  • Or just deciding you’re ready for something new, something better.

We often underestimate the power of one moment. But that moment can become the seed of transformation—the turning point that leads to change, growth, and renewal.

I’ve learned to celebrate these small awakenings. I’ve come to see them as sacred gifts. They might not solve everything instantly, but they remind me that I’m still growing, still listening, still evolving.

If you’ve had a moment like that recently—hold onto it. Let it guide your next steps. Let it anchor you when things feel unsure. You don’t need to have it all figured out. Sometimes, one clear step is more than enough.

And if you’re still waiting for that moment? Be patient. It will come. The heart knows how to find its way through.

Today, I celebrate the power of just one moment of clarity—because one moment is sometimes all it takes to change everything.