Category: Celebrating Existence

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17 Promises I Choose to Live By : Then & Now

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Truth be told this is my then followed by my now.

The then was created some 10 years ago:

My personal code of ethics: Statement of Purpose:

This is a personal guide which will serve as a source of inspiration and as a reminder of things I must always be mindful of, especially when I am faced with challenges. It will help me to realise my long-term goals and mirrors my beliefs and my values.

What function is this expected to serve in my life?

This will serve as a daily reminder of what I believe in and a source of encouragement that will help me to become a better well-rounded individual who endeavours to be happy, have peace of mind, and be the best that I can be. I sincerely promise to use the ‘I will’ list below to do that.

Personal Commitments

  1. I will remember, ‘Carpe diem!’ (Seize the day!) and let it be my motto.
  2. I will continue to treat others in the very same manner that I would like to be treated.
  3. I will continue to develop myself professionally.
  4. I will try to inculcate good values and morals in those I interface with (including those under my charge).
  5. I will always be mindful that some things cannot be changed; that is, not everything is within my reach, and I must accept them for what they are… simply, ‘Don’t worry about what you cannot change’ and ‘Qué sera sera!’ (Whatever will be will be).
  6. I will always thank God for my blessings. I have faced many challenges and overcome each of them—such as not being able to hold things, write properly at times, or walk properly. To date, I have 12 O’ Levels, 4 A’ Levels, a BA in English, and my BA in Mass Communication is my second degree. I have a full-time job now. I can look back and say I’m happy with some of the things I did and encourage others to turn their challenges into successes.
  7. I will continue to give credit where credit is due… everyone deserves to be appreciated.
  8. I will continue to move ahead with realistic goals. Thankfully, both my sense of maturity and being realistic have helped me value the relationships I build.
  9. I will continue to remember that everything happens for a reason… it makes it easier to walk around with less emotional baggage and eliminates chances of dumping it on others.
  10. I will continue fulfilling the responsibilities entrusted to me because shirking responsibilities means denying others their rights.
  11. I will always do my best in all that I do rather than giving up before starting or giving up in the middle of what I am doing because the end will be closer in sight.
  12. I will always look for something positive out of every negative experience, and I will use the ‘scissors of life’ to cut out negativity. Negativity breeds negativity and vice versa.
  13. I will use great care, consideration, and dedication to my values and morals to find amicable solutions to problematic situations and ethical dilemmas by always considering the consequences of my actions as it relates to all my dealings and those affected.
  14. I will focus on improving my health and try to get the required amount of rest because if I do not take care of myself, I cannot take care of anyone needing my help.
  15. I will continue to develop my spirituality and be a devotee of God.
  16. I will try to exercise good judgment at all times.
  17. I will review my personal code of ethics periodically and strive to make necessary improvements where possible.

This is my now: Living My Personal Code of Ethics

Life is about the values that guide you through both the highs and the lows. My personal code of ethics isn’t just a list I wrote once; it’s something I try to live by every day.

At the core of everything is a simple mindset: Carpe diem—seize the day. I try to make the most of every opportunity while remembering to treat others the way I would like to be treated. Respect, kindness, and fairness are not optional; they are the foundation of every meaningful interaction.

Growth is also important to me. I continue to develop myself professionally while encouraging and guiding those I interact with, especially those under my care. At the same time, I’ve learned to accept that not everything is within my control. Some things simply are what they are, and finding peace in that—embracing the idea of “what will be, will be”—has helped me tremendously.

Gratitude plays a huge role in my life. Despite the challenges I’ve faced, I remain thankful. Those experiences have shaped me, strengthened me, and allowed me to encourage others to turn their struggles into success. They remind me that resilience is built, not given.

As I move forward, I focus on being realistic, appreciating others, and valuing the relationships I build. I remind myself that everything happens for a reason, which helps me let go of unnecessary emotional weight and avoid passing negativity on to others.

Responsibility is another principle I take seriously. Fulfilling what is entrusted to me matters because failing to do so affects others. That’s why I always strive to give my best, even when it’s difficult, because every step forward brings me closer to the end goal.

I also make a conscious effort to find positivity in every situation. Life will always present challenges, but I believe in cutting out negativity and choosing a mindset that promotes growth and peace.

In dealing with others, I aim to act with care, integrity, and fairness. Ethical decisions aren’t always easy, but considering the impact of my actions helps me navigate even the most difficult situations.

Equally important is taking care of myself. I’ve learned that I cannot pour into others if I am running on empty. Rest, health, and balance are not luxuries—they are necessities.

My spirituality continues to guide me, grounding me in faith and helping me stay aligned with my values. Alongside this, I strive to exercise good judgment in all that I do.

Finally, I remind myself that growth is ongoing. I revisit my values, reflect on my actions, and make adjustments where needed. Becoming better is a continuous process, not a final destination.

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A Message to You, Sent with Love

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May your troubles and worries go,
may your blessings grow.

Not just a little… but overflow.

This is my message to the world—
to my loved ones, and to those I do not know,
to the familiar faces who walk beside me
and the strangers whose paths I may never cross.

Still, I send this to you.

May the things that sit heavy on your heart
begin to loosen their grip.
May the nights that feel too long
be softened with rest.
May the questions that keep you up
find answers—or at least,
find peace in not knowing just yet.

May your worries learn how to leave you.
Not all at once… but little by little,
like waves pulling back from the shore,
making space for something new.

And in that space—
may your blessings rise.

May they find you in the ordinary moments:
in a kind word,
in a deep breath,
in the quiet reassurance
that you are still here, still standing.

May blessings meet you in ways you didn’t plan for—
unexpected opportunities,
genuine connections,
small wins that remind you
that progress is still progress.

To my loved ones—
may you always feel covered in grace,
held in love,
and reminded that you never have to carry life alone.

And to those I do not know—
may life be gentle with you,
may you be met with kindness,
and may you encounter people
who treat your heart with care.

May what is meant for you never miss you.
And what passes you by
be something that was never meant to stay.

May you grow through what tried to break you.
May you carry wisdom instead of wounds.
May you learn that even in your hardest seasons,
there was something in you
still choosing to rise.

To the ones who feel behind—
you are not late.

To the ones who feel lost—
you are still on a path.

To the ones who feel like giving up—
there is more ahead
than what you can see right now.

May your heart be reminded
that you are allowed to start again,
as many times as it takes.

May peace find a home within you.
Not the loud kind…
but the quiet, steady kind
that stays even when life isn’t perfect.

May you walk into rooms
and not shrink yourself.
May you speak your truth
without fear of being too much.
May you finally understand
that who you are
is already enough.

And as you move through this world—
may you be a blessing too.
In your words,
in your actions,
in the way you show up for others
and for yourself.

So today, and every day after,
I send this out into the world—
to my loved ones,
and to those I may never meet:

May your troubles and worries go,
may your blessings grow—
deep, wide, and without limit.

And may you never forget…
you are worthy of every good thing
that is on its way to you.

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The Importance of Mental Health

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There are certain things in life that quietly shape who we are, yet we rarely stop to talk about them. Mental health is one of those things.

It influences how we think, how we feel, how we cope with challenges, and how we connect with the people around us. In many ways, it sits quietly at the center of our overall well-being.

Mental health is often misunderstood as simply the absence of illness, but it is much more than that. It is about emotional balance, resilience, and the ability to navigate life’s ups and downs. None of us move through life without moments of stress, sadness, uncertainty, or pressure. Those experiences are part of being human. What matters is how we learn to manage them and the support systems we have around us.

Mental health also exists on a spectrum. At different points in our lives, we may feel strong and confident, while at other times we may feel overwhelmed or uncertain. Personal experiences, family environments, friendships, school or work pressures, and even the communities we live in can influence how we feel.

Early experiences can have a particularly strong impact. Supportive families, caring friendships, and safe communities can help build resilience and confidence. On the other hand, experiences such as bullying, harsh treatment, or constant pressure can take a quiet toll on emotional well-being.

Today’s world also presents its own unique pressures. The pace of life, academic expectations, and the constant presence of social media can sometimes make it difficult to pause and simply breathe. While digital spaces can offer connection and support, they can also create comparison and unrealistic expectations that affect how people see themselves.

Yet despite how common these experiences are, conversations about mental health are still often surrounded by silence. Many people hesitate to speak openly about how they feel because they fear judgement or misunderstanding. Unfortunately, silence rarely makes things easier. More often, it allows struggles to grow in the background.

This is why awareness and open dialogue are so important.

Each year on October 10th, the world observes World Mental Health Day. It serves as a reminder that emotional well-being deserves the same attention and care as physical health. Schools, communities, and organizations often use this time to encourage discussions and activities that help break the stigma surrounding mental health.

One simple way to think about protecting mental wellness is through what some refer to as the five Cs: Care, Connection, Courage, Compassion, and Consistency.

Care reminds us to take time for ourselves and our well-being.
Connection highlights the value of meaningful relationships and supportive friendships.
Courage encourages us to speak openly when we are struggling.
Compassion calls for kindness toward both ourselves and others.
Consistency reminds us that healthy habits practiced daily can make a real difference.

Small habits often have a powerful impact. Getting enough rest, eating nourishing foods, balancing responsibilities with relaxation, and spending time on activities that bring joy—whether that is music, reading, art, or exercise—can help restore a sense of balance.

Mental health, however, is not only a personal responsibility. It is also shaped by the environments and systems around us. Schools, workplaces, communities, and governments all play a role in creating spaces that support emotional well-being. Policies, education, and accessible support services can make a meaningful difference in people’s lives.

Another important aspect of the conversation is suicide prevention, which remains a global priority. Efforts such as early support systems, responsible media reporting, and emotional education for young people continue to play a critical role in reducing risks and saving lives.

At the same time, there is growing recognition of the importance of protecting the mental health of children and adolescents. Support for caregivers, school-based programmes, and healthier online environments all contribute to building stronger foundations for future generations.

What is important to remember is that mental health does not follow a simple formula. Some people experience difficult circumstances and remain resilient, while others may struggle even when everything around them appears stable. The human experience is complex, and emotional well-being is shaped by many different factors over time.

Perhaps the most meaningful thing we can do is create a culture of understanding and empathy. When people feel safe to speak openly, when kindness replaces judgement, and when support replaces silence, communities become stronger.

Valuing mental health alongside physical health allows individuals to grow, learn, and reach their full potential.

And sometimes, the most powerful reminder we can offer each other is a simple one:
no one should ever feel that they have to face life’s challenges alone.

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Celebrating International Women’s Day 2026

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Every year, International Women’s Day gives us a moment to pause and reflect. It is more than a date on the calendar or a collection of social media posts. It is a reminder of the strength, resilience, wisdom, and determination that women carry every single day.

When I think about what this day represents, I am reminded that the story of women has always been one of perseverance. Women have always found ways to build, nurture, guide, and lead — often quietly and without seeking recognition.

Their impact, however, is undeniable.

Women hold families together. They shape communities. They nurture dreams, encourage growth, and often stand as pillars of strength for those around them. In addition to this while many of these contributions may not always be celebrated publicly, their influence runs deep.

International Women’s Day gives us the opportunity to acknowledge those contributions — both the visible and the unseen.

For me, this day also holds a very personal meaning because it reminds me of the women in my own life.

Most especially, my mother.

A mother’s influence is something that shapes you long before you truly understand it. Through her guidance, her sacrifices, and the example she sets, she teaches lessons that quietly become part of who you are. Strength, resilience, patience, faith, compassion — many of these qualities are first learned by watching the women who raise us. My mother has been one of those steady forces — someone whose presence, wisdom, and support has played a significant role in my life and throughout my life to date.

I am deeply grateful for the women in my family and extended family who, across generations, have helped shape the story of who we are. Each of them carries a quiet and unique strength — nurturing their families, supporting one another through life’s challenges, and celebrating each other’s victories along the way. Their love, resilience, and care have created a legacy that continues to guide and inspire. Today, I celebrate them, and I celebrate every woman this message reaches, as well as all the women I am blessed to have in my life — family and otherwise, both young and not so young — whose presence, wisdom, and friendship make life richer in so many ways.

Together you remind me that strength does not always appear loudly. Often it appears in quiet perseverance — in the daily commitment to care, to guide, to encourage, and to keep going even when life demands much from them.

So today, I celebrate you.

I celebrate my mother.
I celebrate the mothers in my family.
And I celebrate the countless women everywhere whose love, wisdom, and determination continue to shape the lives around them.

International Women’s Day is also a moment to reflect on the journey of women as a whole — how far we have come and the possibilities that still lie ahead.

Because progress does not happen by accident.

The opportunities many women experience today exist because generations before us were brave enough to speak up, stand firm, and create change. Their courage opened doors that once seemed firmly closed.

And today, women continue to walk through those doors as leaders, entrepreneurs, educators, innovators, and changemakers in every field imaginable.

But even as we celebrate progress, there are a few gentle reminders that women everywhere should carry with them.

Ten Things Women Should Always Remember

1. Your voice matters.
Never underestimate the power of your thoughts, ideas, and perspective.

2. Your strength is not always loud.
Sometimes true strength shows up quietly in resilience and persistence.

3. You do not have to do everything alone.
There is strength in community and support.

4. Your journey does not have to look like anyone else’s.
Comparison often steals the joy of your own path.

5. Your growth deserves recognition.
Celebrate the progress you have made, even if it feels small.

6. Your wellbeing matters.
Taking care of yourself is not selfish; it is necessary.

7. Challenges do not define your worth.
They are simply part of the story that helps shape your strength.

8. You are allowed to evolve.
Who you are today does not have to be who you were yesterday.

9. Supporting other women creates powerful change.
When women uplift one another, incredible things happen.

10. Your presence in this world matters.
Never doubt the value you bring to the lives around you.

International Women’s Day is ultimately about celebration, reflection, and encouragement.

It reminds us to appreciate the women who came before us, to support the women walking beside us, and to inspire the women who will come after us.

So today, I celebrate women everywhere — their courage, their wisdom, their kindness, and their unwavering determination to keep moving forward.

And most importantly, I celebrate the women who helped shape my own life.

My mother.
The mothers in my family.
And the countless women whose influence continues to ripple through the world in ways both big and small.

Because when women grow, families grow.
When women lead, communities grow stronger.
And when women support one another, the future becomes even brighter. 🌿

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Celebrating Wins & Growth

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There was a time when I would quietly move from one achievement to the next without pausing. Tick the box. Submit the assignment. Finish the project. Support the students. Start the next thing. No celebration. No reflection. Just movement.

But I’ve learned something important along the way: celebrating your wins is not pride — it’s perspective.

We are often so focused on where we are going that we forget to honour how far we have come. We set goals, work tirelessly, overcome obstacles, juggle responsibilities, and stretch ourselves in ways no one else sees. And then when we finally accomplish something, we minimize it.

“It was nothing.”
“I could have done better.”
“That’s just what I’m supposed to do.”

No. It is something. And it matters.

Celebrating your wins — big or small — does three powerful things:

1. It reminds you of your growth.
The version of you today once prayed, hoped, or worked toward what you now consider “normal.” What feels routine now was once unfamiliar territory. Reflection turns ordinary milestones into evidence of progress.

2. It builds confidence for the next challenge.
When you acknowledge what you’ve accomplished, you reinforce the truth that you are capable. Success leaves clues. When you celebrate, you internalize them.

3. It strengthens gratitude.
Every journey includes support — mentors, family, faith, discipline, resilience. Pausing to celebrate creates space to be thankful for both the outcome and the process.

And let’s talk about the journey itself.

Success is rarely a straight line. It is early mornings and late nights. It is revision and reworking. It is doubt followed by determination. It is showing up even when motivation is low. The journey shapes us just as much as the destination.

That’s why celebrating only the final result is not enough. Celebrate the consistency. Celebrate the courage to begin. Celebrate the decision to keep going when quitting would have been easier.

Sometimes the win isn’t a certificate, a title, or public recognition. Sometimes the win is personal growth. Emotional maturity. Improved discipline. Stronger boundaries. A calmer response. A deeper faith.

Those wins are just as powerful.

I have learned to pause now — even briefly — and say, “I did my best” or “Yes, it’s coming together nicely.” To reflect. To document. To express gratitude. To allow myself to feel proud without guilt. Because acknowledging success does not make you complacent; it fuels you.

If you are reading this and moving quickly from one goal to the next, I encourage you: pause.

Look back at where you were one year ago.
Look at what you’ve survived.
Look at what you’ve built.
Look at what you’ve learned.

Celebrate that.

You are allowed to honour your effort.
You are allowed to enjoy your progress.
You are allowed to recognize your success.

Your journey deserves acknowledgment.
Your wins deserve celebration.
And so do you.

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Fun Facts People Don’t Know About Me

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You might know what I do—but you may not know these fun little details about who I am. Here’s a playful peek behind the scenes!

1. I am an Editor with International Experience

I am a professional editor with experience on the international scale, working with diverse voices, styles, and audiences. I love refining ideas and helping messages shine clearly and confidently.

2. I blend Editing, Marketing, and PR

I also have marketing experience, which means I edit and advise with audience, visibility, and impact in mind—not just grammar.

3. I have over 10 years of experience in Communications and PR

With a decade of experience in communications and public relations, I understand how messages are received, interpreted, and remembered.

4. I Specialize in Crisis Management & Communications Planning

When situations are sensitive or high-pressure, I help individuals and organizations communicate calmly, strategically, and with credibility.

5. I’ve Been Teaching for 21 Years (Yes, I Started Very Young!)

Teaching has been part of my life for over two decades, shaping my patience, clarity, and love for mentorship.

6. I have 3 books available on Kindle

I’m the author of three books published on Kindle, allowing my work to reach readers across the world at the click of a button.

7. Words Are My Superpower

From editing manuscripts and marketing content to crisis statements and lesson plans, words are how I create impact. I have written over 100 press releases, done content for websites, helped a lot of people including students create competitive resumes. Thankfully it’s all in my portfolio.

8. I’m big on Recycling

Paper and bottles never go to waste with me. I believe small, consistent actions make a big environmental difference.

9. I do Google Reviews—when service is impeccable

When I receive outstanding service, I share it! My Google reviews have reached 80,000 views to date, helping others and highlighting excellence. See what I’ve posted to Google Maps
Level 6 Local Guide
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10. My Blog has a Global Reach

This blog is read in 151 countries, with over 28,000 views—a reminder that words truly travel.

11. I naturally see potential

I quickly spot strengths—in students, writers, and ideas—and love helping others develop them.

12. Positivity is a Daily Practice

I actively choose growth, gratitude, and perspective, even during challenging moments.

13. Teaching still energizes me

Even after 21 years, supporting students’ confidence and success remains deeply fulfilling.

14. I’m a Lifelong Learner

I’m constantly learning—about communication trends, education, culture, and personal development.

15. Motherhood strengthened my skills

Being a mom sharpened my empathy, patience, multitasking, and problem-solving abilities.

16. Integrity guides everything I do

Honesty, clarity, and kindness are non-negotiable in my work and relationships.

17. I truly believe life is meant to be celebrated

Every season, every lesson, every small win matters.

18. I love design and I design nearly all of what I use.

On those rare occasions where I don’t use my designs, I give photo credits.

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Celebrating New Year’s Day 2026: Grounded, Grateful, and Guided

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Trust me when I say that New Year’s Day unfolded just the way my spirit needed it to—slow, intentional, and filled with meaning. No rush. No pressure. Just calm vibes, gratitude, and a deep sense of alignment with what truly matters.

Being the person that I am, I rushed through Old Year’s Day sorting some overdue pending stuff but before the kids went to sleep I told them this, “This is your last hug for 2025. When you get up it’s going to be 2026 and you will be showered with more love, hugs and kisses.” So said, so done!

New Year’s  day began with a group family call, and in that moment, I was reminded that distance never diminishes love. Hearing familiar voices, sharing laughs, and exchanging blessings instantly warmed my heart. It felt like the perfect way to welcome a new year—connected, supported, and surrounded by love.

Spending quality time with family was the heartbeat of the day. Watching their excitement, listening to their thoughts, witnessing their enthusiasm and the entire opposite, sharing simple conversations, and just being present reminded me that these moments are the real treasures. No elaborate plans were needed—just time, attention, and love. Their joy grounded me and reinforced why I strive to build a life rooted in purpose and balance.

One of the most sacred moments of the day was our visit to Lord Hanuman. There was a powerful stillness in that space—one that calms the mind and strengthens the spirit. Spending time by Lord Hanuman, visiting the temple, all of it was deeply symbolic. Each step was filled with quiet prayer. For me it is letting go of what I need to, giving thanks for lessons learned, and welcoming the strength, discipline, and devotion needed for the year ahead. Collectively it brings clarity, humility, and peace—exactly what I need to carry into this new chapter. We were also able to meet Datta devotees who are like family members to us, and this too is a great blessing!

There was also a gentle satisfaction in having New Year’s Day responsibilities sorted early. Most times I am rushing but this time I wasn’t. Clearing small tasks felt like clearing mental space. Truth be told, I started sorting on Boxing Day. It allowed the rest of the day to flow effortlessly with me doing things I needed to and me being me.

The warmth of the day extended beyond our home through lovely neighbours who are simply the best—kind exchanges, genuine smiles, and that reassuring reminder that goodness lives in everyday interactions. These moments may seem small, but they are powerful, they are meaningful, they uplift us and connect us.

As the day settled, my thoughts turned inward to intentions for a better year. Not louder goals or unrealistic resolutions, but quieter promises to myself. I choose peace, to protect my energy, remain focused and driven, be more present, and continue growing with grace. It promises to be year of conscious living, honest effort, and meaningful moments.

New Year’s Day didn’t demand anything from me, but it aligned me. With family, good neighbours, friends, faith, simplicity, and love leading the way. It is the most authentic start I could ask for.

Here’s to moving forward with calm vibes, a grateful heart, and steady faith. Here’s to celebrating existence one intentional day at a time.

From me to you, I wish you health, happiness, and an abundance of blessings in the year ahead. May you be surrounded by positivity, light and good vibes all the way!

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Celebrating 2025: Carpe Diem, Que Sera Sera, Semper Fi

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2025 was not a year I simply passed through—it was a year that refined me. A year of lessons (some very harsh ones), new beginnings, and quiet awakenings that required continued honesty, courage, and faith. It challenged my resilience and reshaped my perspective, reminding me that growth is rarely loud—but always intentional.

This was the year I truly learned the power of carpe diem—seizing the moment by showing up. Not perfectly. Not fearlessly. But consistently. I learned that progress is built in the daily effort, the small decisions, and the willingness to keep going even when motivation fades. Consistency matters, and 2025 proved that steady steps often carry more power than dramatic moves.

At the same time, I embraced the wisdom of que sera sera—understanding that not everything is mine to control. I learned to release expectations and trust the unfolding. There is peace in acceptance, and strength in knowing when to let go and when to stand firm.

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♬ Moments We Live For – In Paradise

One of the most transformative lessons of the year was learning to see things for what they are—not what I hoped they would be, not what I tried to make them, but what they truly were. That clarity brought freedom. It allowed me to stop over-explaining, stop forcing alignment, and start responding with wisdom instead of emotion.

Moving forward required deep faith—faith in the process, faith in divine timing, and faith in myself. It required resilience of the quiet kind—the kind that wakes up every day, shows up again, and chooses growth even when the road feels heavy.

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♬ Vibes – ZHRMusic

2025 demanded bold decisions. Decisions that were not always understood, but were necessary. I chose boundaries over burnout, truth over comfort, and peace over people-pleasing. In doing so, I learned what semper fi truly means—being faithful to my values, loyal to my purpose, and committed to the person I am becoming.

This was also the year I fully embraced investing in me. My healing. My growth. My future. Self-investment became an act of strength, not guilt. And through it all, I rose—again and again—like the phoenix, not untouched by the fire, but strengthened by it.

As I celebrate 2025, I do so with gratitude—not because it was easy, but because it was necessary. It taught me that showing up consistently changes everything, clarity brings peace, and faith carries you further than fear ever could.

I remain deeply grateful for the love, prayers, and unwavering support of my family and friends, for my children who inspire me daily to be strong and intentional, and for the mentors and quiet supporters who believed in me—sometimes even before I fully believed in myself. Their faith, encouragement, and presence, whether spoken or silent, reminded me that I was never walking this journey alone. In moments of doubt and rebuilding, their trust in me became strength, their prayers became covering, and their support became the fuel that helped me keep showing up, stay faithful, and continue moving forward with clarity and courage.

I step forward grounded, resilient, and clear—guided by the principles that carried me through:

Carpe Diem.
Que Sera Sera.
Semper Fi.

Here’s to continuing the journey—steady, faithful, and always celebrating existence

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Celebrating the Life of My Grandmother

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As they say, the loss of a loved one is a a void that cannot be filled and the memories we have are our comfort. My grandma was not just my grandma but she was special. Growing up I didn’t know my Dad’s mom because she passed away before my parents got married. She was my Mom’s mom Grand-mom and she wore many hats.

To lose a grandmother is to lose an anchor in the family — the keeper of traditions, the storyteller of generations, the one whose love reached beyond time. Her absence leaves an empty chair, but her presence lingers in every word she shared, every prayer she once whispered. Though her hands have rested, her legacy continues — in the lives she shaped, in the love she sowed, and in the strength she passed down.

My grandmom, the late Jassodra Dookie was known by many as Celia or Lady Celia. Many know her as the lady who sold plantain in the Point Fortin Market for many years. Many in the village would remember the early mornings when she and my Grandfather would toil in their garden and they also did that for many years. That in summary captures their hardworking nature and as they got older, that became something they both had to ease up doing. They were a team and they worked together.

She was a very giving person and this is one of the many things she will be remembered for. Her life was filled with giving and giving freely. So, let me ask: Is there a story in a name? “Jassodra”

Putting together pieces, one could infer that:

“Jassodra” might be a variant or relative of Jasoda/Yashoda.

If so, it might carry similar resonances: mother-figure, someone with goodness or kindness.

For as far back as I could remember, as mentioned my Grandma was a very hardworking woman. This hard work was a rhythm she lived by through her entire life and she was very independent in that she did what she needed to. Whether in her home or in her garden, or in the market, she poured herself fully into every task. Her life was filled with giving and giving freely. More so, when you caught her laughter or her smile, know it was one to treasure.

Her love was not quiet—it was felt in the way she welcomed people and she loved giving advice because this was her very nature. She was a daughter, sister, wife, mother, grandmother, great-grandmother, aunt, niece, cousin and friend of many. 

While we as her grandkids have lost a grandmother, her sisters have lost their eldest sister, my Mom and her siblings have lost their Mom, our kids have lost their great- grandmom, her nieces and nephews have lost an aunt, and yes, I could go on, but I am saying all of this to stress on the fact, that she will not be forgotten. Memories of her will bring comfort to those taking the lessons her life taught us and putting them to good use.

She loved to read and at times was known for a joke or two. Those who knew her knew she always bought newspapers and when she didn’t, would still get the newspapers to read. She showed us that strength is found not in the size of what you have, but in the care and effort you put into what you do.

Perhaps yes, her greatest gift was generosity. My grandmother gave freely and she never hesitated to share whatever she had, no matter how big or small.

Today, we celebrate her life not only with memories but with the lessons she leaves behind.

My grandmother may no longer be with us in person, but her spirit lives in our acts of love, every hard-earned success, every act of kindness we extend to others. Her life was a blessing, and her memory is a legacy we carry forward with gratitude.

Jassodra Dookie, also known as Celia, will be lovingly remembered as:

Daughter of: Puloo & Kola Ramlakhan (both deceased)

Wife of: Ramlal Dookie (deceased)

Mother of: Doris, Dora, Dolsie, Bena, Jaggernauth, Rajdaye & Kaysika Devi (deceased)

Sister of: Betty, Sita, Vinda, Rookmin (deceased), Sookraj (deceased), Doodnath (deceased) & Bharose (deceased)

Grandmother of: Rachael Ann, Ria, Ricky, Sasha, Adesh, Rishi, Imran, Candice, Sarah Lynn, Vincent, Leah, Premnauth, Susan, Joseph & Josiah

Great Grandmother of: Richie Lee, Kaytlyn, Yadu Datta, Regan, Rayaz, Renissa, Ezra, Marissa, Amelia, Alissa, Sofia, Stephon, Emma, Levi, Enoch, Lilly Ann & Lucas

Granddaughter of: Sonia & Ramnauth Sadoo

Aunt of: Merlin, Anjie, Anita, Sharda, Ria, Pradeep, Manoj, Michael, Nina, Stephen, Vishal, Roopa, Deepa, Narvin, Nellie, Indar & many others

Cousin of: Rose, Baby, Jai, Deokie, Sai, Vihar & many others

Niece of: Uncle Premchand Mahabirsingh

Daughter-in-law of: Gobin Dookie

Mother-in-law of: Winston, Rajesh, Hosein, Rosemarie, Sharaz & Ramjit (deceased)

Sister-in-law of: Ram & Ashford

Relative of: the Dookie’s, Atal’s & many others

Friend of: Tanty Golly, Doolin & many others

The passing of a loved one reminds us of life’s preciousness. It teaches us to cherish every moment, to express love and gratitude without delay, and to forgive where we can. Life is fleeting, and in its impermanence, we learn to focus on what truly matters—relationships, kindness, and leaving a positive mark on the world. Though loss brings pain, it also brings clarity: to live with purpose, to embrace the small joys, and to treasure the memories that keep those we love alive in our hearts.

Some meaningful lessons include:

  1. Value Time: Life is short, so spend time on what truly matters—family, friends, passions, and experiences.
  2. Express Love and Gratitude: Don’t wait to say “I love you” or “thank you.” People may not always be around.
  3. Live with Purpose: Death reminds us to live intentionally and make a positive impact while we can.
  4. Embrace Forgiveness: Holding grudges wastes precious energy; life is too short to carry anger.
  5. Appreciate the Small Things: Everyday moments—laughter, nature, a kind word—gain significance when we reflect on life’s fragility.
  6. Acceptance of Impermanence: Life is fleeting; learning to accept change and loss brings peace.
  7. Leave a Legacy: Our actions, love, and memories live on in others—focus on what you want to be remembered for.
  8. Prioritize Health and Well-being: Life’s unpredictability teaches us to care for ourselves and others.
Posted in Celebrating Existence, Celebrating Life

Forever in Our Hearts: Remembering My Dad

Posted on by rachaelathomasj

Today is seven (7) years since the day our dad, Ramchit Ramesh Thomas, passed away When he passed away on September 15, 2018, it changed all our lives not because we are unaware of what death is but because it added a whole new reality. Although he is physically gone, his presence is still deeply felt in our lives. Not a day goes by when he is not thought of. Time has moved forward, but the love, lessons, and memories he left behind remain with us as powerful as ever.

As I once wrote: “Dad was my hero.” That truth has not changed. If anything, with each passing year, I appreciate even more the man he was, the values he lived by, and the legacy he left for us. I miss him and we all do, but we know he is in no more pain, and he fought a brave fight, standing with integrity and courage till the very end. For me, I remember our conversations, his last words to me, his last hours, his final moments and all that came before that in the live he lived.

A Man of Integrity

Daddy lived by every message he shared with us. Preparation, discipline, honesty, and hard work guided everything he did. He believed in showing up, being ready, and following through. Those lessons still echo in my life every single day.

What few would know would be how committed he was to ensuring that there was electricity in Coromandel.

While I provide the image from the 1985 article, allow me to share snippets from it:

“A beautiful thank you card and letter were sent in to ACTION LINE recently from Ramesh Thomas of Southern Central Road, Coromandel Village, Cedros, for assistance he received from this column concerning the electricity supply he has been seeking from TTEC since 1972.”

“Thomas’ problem was carried in this column in March 1985…”

“Ramesh has applied for electricity supply since November 1972 for an electricity supply. Since then he has been applying to TTEC constituency office… He kept on applying and was called in during 1976 but was told his application was still in the office…”

“After being dated February 21, 1978 it was accepted as the first on the supply under the Rural and Remote Electrification Programme. It bore reference number D46/402/EC but up to now nothing had been done.”

“Yesterday, we received a beautiful thank you card and letter from Ramesh Thomas, to you and your Action Line team… My humble thanks for your noble intervention with TTEC. We have been waiting for electricity in Coromandel Village since 1972, but thanks to you our village has now been blessed with a supply.”

“It was with great delight I read your column in the Express on Monday March 11, 1985 concerning TTEC. Action was taken and our village was successful. May Almighty God bless you and your noble work always. Once again, very many thanks.”

“Thank you very, very much. —Ramesh Thomas.”

In my 2024 Father’s Day reflection, I wrote about how much he shaped me: “Dad’s love was not just in words, but in his actions, in his sacrifices, in his unwavering dedication to his family.” Those words still ring true because his example continues to guide how I live, love, and serve.

A Life of Giving

Those who knew him would know that this is who he was. Dad gave so much of himself—not only to us, his family, but also to the people around him. He always found a way to help, whether through his roles in the community or in the quiet, simple ways he supported those in need.

Those who knew him would be able to recall that the Coromandel Shiv Mandir was very dear to him and in the 20 years he served as President, he remained every committed to ensuring that the structure was continuously improved and the amenities too. Mom was always by his side and continues to be present in the Mandir. He wanted it to be a place where devotees who attended the Mandir- whether they were from the community or were visiting- could be in a safe space and worship in comfort. Over the years, the progress he made in realizing this dream became more and more evident. Thankfully, he was able to see a lot of it!

One story I did not share much is that last year when I began my playwright incubator’s course, the play I wrote earned its title from a part of Daddy’s life post-retirement. This play made it to the final round of staged readings in Barbados at the Daphne Joseph Hackett Theatre. The play is titled, “Shattered Dreams and Silver Linings”. It is a major undertaking but also one I will continue to work on to share my Dad’s story with the world.

In my 2018 tribute, I wrote: “He was selfless, dedicated, and disciplined. He gave of himself without ever expecting anything in return.” That is who he was at his core. Even when he was ill, he continued to encourage and support others. He taught us that true strength is not measured in what you keep for yourself, but in what you give to others.

The Little Things I Miss

When I think of Daddy, I remember not only the big lessons but also the quiet, everyday moments:

  • His smile that could light up a room.
  • His laughter that brought joy into our home.
  • His encouraging words that reminded me of my own strength.
  • His stories, filled with wisdom and sometimes humor, that connected us to our roots.
  • The way he showed us to reason situations.
  • The way he taught us to remain calm.
  • His love for each of us.
  • His passion for all that he did.

Those simple, ordinary moments are treasures now. They are reminders of his presence, even when he is no longer here physically.

His Legacy Lives On

In 2024, I shared that “Even though he is no longer here, I honour him by living the values he instilled in me—integrity, kindness, humility, and perseverance.”

That remains my daily goal. Every time I face challenges, I hear his words about preparation. Every time I choose kindness, service, or honesty, I know I am carrying him forward.

Dad would never want us to remain in sorrow. He would want us to live, to give of ourselves, and to walk with courage. That’s how I honor him—with my life, my choices, and my actions.

Forever Remembered

Daddy, we miss you dearly, but we know you are at peace. Your love continues to guide us, your lessons continue to strengthen us, and your legacy continues to shine through all who knew you. He was a gentle giant who touched many lives.

Thank you, Daddy. We love you. We honor you. We will never forget you.

We are grateful for all the time we had with our Dad! Physically gone but never to be forgotten! We are also grateful that we have Mummy with us! We are forever blessed to have them both as our parents!