Tag: self reflection

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17 Promises I Choose to Live By : Then & Now

Posted on by rachaelathomasj

Truth be told this is my then followed by my now.

The then was created some 10 years ago:

My personal code of ethics: Statement of Purpose:

This is a personal guide which will serve as a source of inspiration and as a reminder of things I must always be mindful of, especially when I am faced with challenges. It will help me to realise my long-term goals and mirrors my beliefs and my values.

What function is this expected to serve in my life?

This will serve as a daily reminder of what I believe in and a source of encouragement that will help me to become a better well-rounded individual who endeavours to be happy, have peace of mind, and be the best that I can be. I sincerely promise to use the ‘I will’ list below to do that.

Personal Commitments

  1. I will remember, ‘Carpe diem!’ (Seize the day!) and let it be my motto.
  2. I will continue to treat others in the very same manner that I would like to be treated.
  3. I will continue to develop myself professionally.
  4. I will try to inculcate good values and morals in those I interface with (including those under my charge).
  5. I will always be mindful that some things cannot be changed; that is, not everything is within my reach, and I must accept them for what they are… simply, ‘Don’t worry about what you cannot change’ and ‘Qué sera sera!’ (Whatever will be will be).
  6. I will always thank God for my blessings. I have faced many challenges and overcome each of them—such as not being able to hold things, write properly at times, or walk properly. To date, I have 12 O’ Levels, 4 A’ Levels, a BA in English, and my BA in Mass Communication is my second degree. I have a full-time job now. I can look back and say I’m happy with some of the things I did and encourage others to turn their challenges into successes.
  7. I will continue to give credit where credit is due… everyone deserves to be appreciated.
  8. I will continue to move ahead with realistic goals. Thankfully, both my sense of maturity and being realistic have helped me value the relationships I build.
  9. I will continue to remember that everything happens for a reason… it makes it easier to walk around with less emotional baggage and eliminates chances of dumping it on others.
  10. I will continue fulfilling the responsibilities entrusted to me because shirking responsibilities means denying others their rights.
  11. I will always do my best in all that I do rather than giving up before starting or giving up in the middle of what I am doing because the end will be closer in sight.
  12. I will always look for something positive out of every negative experience, and I will use the ‘scissors of life’ to cut out negativity. Negativity breeds negativity and vice versa.
  13. I will use great care, consideration, and dedication to my values and morals to find amicable solutions to problematic situations and ethical dilemmas by always considering the consequences of my actions as it relates to all my dealings and those affected.
  14. I will focus on improving my health and try to get the required amount of rest because if I do not take care of myself, I cannot take care of anyone needing my help.
  15. I will continue to develop my spirituality and be a devotee of God.
  16. I will try to exercise good judgment at all times.
  17. I will review my personal code of ethics periodically and strive to make necessary improvements where possible.

This is my now: Living My Personal Code of Ethics

Life is about the values that guide you through both the highs and the lows. My personal code of ethics isn’t just a list I wrote once; it’s something I try to live by every day.

At the core of everything is a simple mindset: Carpe diem—seize the day. I try to make the most of every opportunity while remembering to treat others the way I would like to be treated. Respect, kindness, and fairness are not optional; they are the foundation of every meaningful interaction.

Growth is also important to me. I continue to develop myself professionally while encouraging and guiding those I interact with, especially those under my care. At the same time, I’ve learned to accept that not everything is within my control. Some things simply are what they are, and finding peace in that—embracing the idea of “what will be, will be”—has helped me tremendously.

Gratitude plays a huge role in my life. Despite the challenges I’ve faced, I remain thankful. Those experiences have shaped me, strengthened me, and allowed me to encourage others to turn their struggles into success. They remind me that resilience is built, not given.

As I move forward, I focus on being realistic, appreciating others, and valuing the relationships I build. I remind myself that everything happens for a reason, which helps me let go of unnecessary emotional weight and avoid passing negativity on to others.

Responsibility is another principle I take seriously. Fulfilling what is entrusted to me matters because failing to do so affects others. That’s why I always strive to give my best, even when it’s difficult, because every step forward brings me closer to the end goal.

I also make a conscious effort to find positivity in every situation. Life will always present challenges, but I believe in cutting out negativity and choosing a mindset that promotes growth and peace.

In dealing with others, I aim to act with care, integrity, and fairness. Ethical decisions aren’t always easy, but considering the impact of my actions helps me navigate even the most difficult situations.

Equally important is taking care of myself. I’ve learned that I cannot pour into others if I am running on empty. Rest, health, and balance are not luxuries—they are necessities.

My spirituality continues to guide me, grounding me in faith and helping me stay aligned with my values. Alongside this, I strive to exercise good judgment in all that I do.

Finally, I remind myself that growth is ongoing. I revisit my values, reflect on my actions, and make adjustments where needed. Becoming better is a continuous process, not a final destination.

Posted in Celebrating Life, Life, Life lessons, Mindset

Why “What Is” Is Better Than “What Ifs”

Posted on by rachaelathomasj

There is a quiet habit many of us fall into without even realizing it. It begins with a simple question: what if?

What if I had made a different decision?
What if I had said something sooner?
What if things had unfolded another way?
What if someone had chosen differently?

At first, these thoughts seem harmless. They feel like reflection, like the mind trying to make sense of something that did not turn out the way we once hoped. But if we are honest with ourselves, what ifs can slowly become a place where we spend far too much time.

A place where the mind keeps circling back, trying to recreate a version of life that never actually existed.

The problem with what if is that it lives entirely in imagination. It is a space where the story can always be rewritten, where the outcome can always be softer, kinder, or more favorable than what really happened. In that imagined version, the timing works out better. People say the right things. Circumstances align in ways that feel perfect.

But life rarely unfolds like that.

Real life is layered. It is complex. It carries moments of joy, moments of disappointment, unexpected detours, and lessons that sometimes only make sense much later. And that is where what is becomes far more powerful than what if.

Because what is is grounded in reality.

What is is the life you are living right now — the one shaped by every decision, every experience, every closed door and every open one. It may not always look like the version you once imagined, but it carries something much more valuable than imagination: truth.

Truth gives you something to stand on.

When you accept what is, you give yourself the opportunity to grow. You begin to see situations more clearly, without the soft filters that what if tends to place over the past. You begin to understand why certain things unfolded the way they did. Sometimes you realize that what you once thought was a loss was actually a redirection.

And sometimes you realize that the version you were holding onto in your mind was never as perfect as it seemed.

Our minds have a way of editing memories. When we think about what might have been, we often remove the difficult parts and highlight only the pieces that feel comforting. Suddenly the imagined version of events becomes far more appealing than the reality we experienced.

But that imagined version is incomplete.

It does not include the challenges that would have come along with it. It does not include the lessons you might have missed, the strength you might never have developed, or the growth that came from navigating the situation as it actually happened.

And growth is one of the most valuable gifts that what is gives us.

Life shapes us through real experiences, not imagined ones. Through moments where we learn to adapt, adjust, and sometimes rebuild. Through times where we are forced to see things differently, to let go of expectations we once held tightly, and to open ourselves to paths we had not considered before.

There is a quiet strength that comes from accepting reality as it is.

Acceptance does not mean you agree with everything that happened. It does not mean you pretend certain moments did not hurt or that disappointments did not matter. Acceptance simply means you stop trying to rewrite a chapter that has already been written.

It means you stop asking what if and begin asking, what now?

That shift is powerful.

Because the moment you start focusing on what now, your energy returns to the present — the only place where real change can actually happen.

You begin to notice the opportunities that exist right in front of you. The small openings that were always there but may have gone unnoticed while your attention was focused on the past. The new connections, ideas, and possibilities that can only emerge when you are fully present in the life you are living.

And sometimes, as time passes, something surprising happens.

You begin to see that the life you once questioned has quietly become a life that fits you better than the one you imagined. The detours that once frustrated you start to make sense. The doors that closed reveal the paths they cleared for you to walk.

Not everything that did not happen was meant to happen.

Not every opportunity that slipped away was meant to stay.
Not every person who left your life was meant to remain in your story.

Some things were simply stepping stones — moments that guided you toward where you were meant to be next.

That is why what is holds so much quiet wisdom.

It grounds you in the present. It invites you to learn from what has already unfolded. It allows you to build something meaningful from the life you are actually living rather than the life that only exists in imagination.

And when you begin to truly embrace what is, something within you softens.

You stop fighting the past.
You stop measuring your life against imagined outcomes.
You stop carrying questions that can never truly be answered.

Instead, you begin to appreciate the richness of the life that is unfolding right now — imperfect, surprising, and sometimes even better than what you once thought you wanted.

Because the truth is, the present moment holds far more possibility than what if ever will.

What if can only look backward.

But what is has the power to move your life forward.

Posted in Celebrate Today, Celebrating Life, Life, Love and Blessings

Celebrating your journey, even when your heart needs a moment

Posted on by rachaelathomasj

Life has a quiet way of teaching us lessons we didn’t expect to learn, even when we don’t think or realize we need it or we are up to it.

Sometimes everything feels like it is moving along just fine. You are making plans, setting goals, doing what you need to do, and finding your rhythm. Then something shifts. A situation changes. A door closes. Someone you thought would always be there is suddenly not. Or maybe nothing dramatic even happens — things simply begin to feel a little different, a little heavier, a little uncertain.

And in those moments, one gentle truth often reveals itself: you need to keep moving forward.

Not in a rushed or forceful way. Not in the sense that you must pretend everything is fine when it isn’t. But in the quiet understanding that life continues, and so must you.

There will be seasons where things do not go the way you hoped. Moments where you sit with your thoughts a little longer than usual, trying to understand what changed or why something unfolded the way it did. It is human to reflect, to replay conversations, to wonder if things might have been different under other circumstances.

And that reflection is not wrong.

In fact, allowing yourself to feel what you feel is one of the healthiest things you can do.

There is nothing weak about acknowledging that something hurt you, disappointed you, or caught you by surprise. Life would be far easier if we could simply switch emotions on and off, but that is not how we are built. Our feelings exist for a reason. They remind us of what matters to us. They show us where we have invested our time, our energy, and sometimes our hearts.

So if something affects you, it is perfectly okay to pause and acknowledge it.

You can admit that a situation did not feel good.
You can recognize that someone’s actions left you disappointed.
You can accept that things did not turn out the way you hoped they would.

None of that means you are stuck.

Acknowledging your feelings is not the same as living in them forever. It simply means you are being honest with yourself. It means you are giving yourself the grace to process what happened instead of pretending it did not matter.

But after that moment of honesty, something else gently calls you forward.

Life still has things waiting for you.

There is still work to do.
Still goals to pursue.
Still moments ahead that you have not yet experienced.

And so, with quiet strength, you gather yourself and continue.

Keeping moving does not always mean making big, dramatic changes. Often it looks much simpler than that. It looks like getting up the next day and doing what needs to be done. It looks like continuing to show up for your responsibilities. It looks like slowly redirecting your energy toward the things that help you grow.

Progress, more often than not, is quiet.

It is made up of small decisions that no one else really sees. The decision to let go of what you cannot control. The decision to stop replaying a moment that has already passed. The decision to protect your peace and invest your energy where it truly belongs.

Sometimes keeping moving means leaving certain spaces behind. Sometimes it means adjusting expectations you once held tightly. And sometimes it simply means reminding yourself that one difficult chapter does not define the rest of your story.

Life has a beautiful way of opening new paths when we are willing to keep walking.

You may not always know exactly where the road will lead. There will be moments when you are simply taking one step at a time, trusting that clarity will come as you go. And often, it does.

Every step forward creates space for something new. Every step helps you grow a little stronger, a little wiser, a little more grounded in who you are becoming.

One day you may look back and realize that the moments that once felt like pauses were actually quiet turning points — moments that gently guided you toward something better suited for your journey.

That is why it is important to keep moving.

Not hurriedly.
Not forcefully.
But steadily and with grace for yourself.

Feel what you need to feel.
Acknowledge the moments that mattered.
And then continue doing what life is asking of you.

You do not have to have everything figured out today.

You simply have to take the next step.

And then the next.

Just keep moving.

Posted in Celebrate Today, Celebrating Existence, Celebrating Life, Life, Love and Blessings

Celebrating Wins & Growth

Posted on by rachaelathomasj

There was a time when I would quietly move from one achievement to the next without pausing. Tick the box. Submit the assignment. Finish the project. Support the students. Start the next thing. No celebration. No reflection. Just movement.

But I’ve learned something important along the way: celebrating your wins is not pride — it’s perspective.

We are often so focused on where we are going that we forget to honour how far we have come. We set goals, work tirelessly, overcome obstacles, juggle responsibilities, and stretch ourselves in ways no one else sees. And then when we finally accomplish something, we minimize it.

“It was nothing.”
“I could have done better.”
“That’s just what I’m supposed to do.”

No. It is something. And it matters.

Celebrating your wins — big or small — does three powerful things:

1. It reminds you of your growth.
The version of you today once prayed, hoped, or worked toward what you now consider “normal.” What feels routine now was once unfamiliar territory. Reflection turns ordinary milestones into evidence of progress.

2. It builds confidence for the next challenge.
When you acknowledge what you’ve accomplished, you reinforce the truth that you are capable. Success leaves clues. When you celebrate, you internalize them.

3. It strengthens gratitude.
Every journey includes support — mentors, family, faith, discipline, resilience. Pausing to celebrate creates space to be thankful for both the outcome and the process.

And let’s talk about the journey itself.

Success is rarely a straight line. It is early mornings and late nights. It is revision and reworking. It is doubt followed by determination. It is showing up even when motivation is low. The journey shapes us just as much as the destination.

That’s why celebrating only the final result is not enough. Celebrate the consistency. Celebrate the courage to begin. Celebrate the decision to keep going when quitting would have been easier.

Sometimes the win isn’t a certificate, a title, or public recognition. Sometimes the win is personal growth. Emotional maturity. Improved discipline. Stronger boundaries. A calmer response. A deeper faith.

Those wins are just as powerful.

I have learned to pause now — even briefly — and say, “I did my best” or “Yes, it’s coming together nicely.” To reflect. To document. To express gratitude. To allow myself to feel proud without guilt. Because acknowledging success does not make you complacent; it fuels you.

If you are reading this and moving quickly from one goal to the next, I encourage you: pause.

Look back at where you were one year ago.
Look at what you’ve survived.
Look at what you’ve built.
Look at what you’ve learned.

Celebrate that.

You are allowed to honour your effort.
You are allowed to enjoy your progress.
You are allowed to recognize your success.

Your journey deserves acknowledgment.
Your wins deserve celebration.
And so do you.

Posted in Being Prayerful, Celebrate Today, Celebrating Existence, Family Moments, Love and Blessings

Celebrating New Year’s Day 2026: Grounded, Grateful, and Guided

Posted on by rachaelathomasj

Trust me when I say that New Year’s Day unfolded just the way my spirit needed it to—slow, intentional, and filled with meaning. No rush. No pressure. Just calm vibes, gratitude, and a deep sense of alignment with what truly matters.

Being the person that I am, I rushed through Old Year’s Day sorting some overdue pending stuff but before the kids went to sleep I told them this, “This is your last hug for 2025. When you get up it’s going to be 2026 and you will be showered with more love, hugs and kisses.” So said, so done!

New Year’s  day began with a group family call, and in that moment, I was reminded that distance never diminishes love. Hearing familiar voices, sharing laughs, and exchanging blessings instantly warmed my heart. It felt like the perfect way to welcome a new year—connected, supported, and surrounded by love.

Spending quality time with family was the heartbeat of the day. Watching their excitement, listening to their thoughts, witnessing their enthusiasm and the entire opposite, sharing simple conversations, and just being present reminded me that these moments are the real treasures. No elaborate plans were needed—just time, attention, and love. Their joy grounded me and reinforced why I strive to build a life rooted in purpose and balance.

One of the most sacred moments of the day was our visit to Lord Hanuman. There was a powerful stillness in that space—one that calms the mind and strengthens the spirit. Spending time by Lord Hanuman, visiting the temple, all of it was deeply symbolic. Each step was filled with quiet prayer. For me it is letting go of what I need to, giving thanks for lessons learned, and welcoming the strength, discipline, and devotion needed for the year ahead. Collectively it brings clarity, humility, and peace—exactly what I need to carry into this new chapter. We were also able to meet Datta devotees who are like family members to us, and this too is a great blessing!

There was also a gentle satisfaction in having New Year’s Day responsibilities sorted early. Most times I am rushing but this time I wasn’t. Clearing small tasks felt like clearing mental space. Truth be told, I started sorting on Boxing Day. It allowed the rest of the day to flow effortlessly with me doing things I needed to and me being me.

The warmth of the day extended beyond our home through lovely neighbours who are simply the best—kind exchanges, genuine smiles, and that reassuring reminder that goodness lives in everyday interactions. These moments may seem small, but they are powerful, they are meaningful, they uplift us and connect us.

As the day settled, my thoughts turned inward to intentions for a better year. Not louder goals or unrealistic resolutions, but quieter promises to myself. I choose peace, to protect my energy, remain focused and driven, be more present, and continue growing with grace. It promises to be year of conscious living, honest effort, and meaningful moments.

New Year’s Day didn’t demand anything from me, but it aligned me. With family, good neighbours, friends, faith, simplicity, and love leading the way. It is the most authentic start I could ask for.

Here’s to moving forward with calm vibes, a grateful heart, and steady faith. Here’s to celebrating existence one intentional day at a time.

From me to you, I wish you health, happiness, and an abundance of blessings in the year ahead. May you be surrounded by positivity, light and good vibes all the way!

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Celebrating the Power of 1 Moment of Clarity

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Sometimes all it takes is one moment—one blink of insight, one quiet nudge from within—to completely shift your perspective.

It doesn’t have to be loud. It doesn’t have to be dramatic. But it’s powerful.

Clarity often comes like a whisper in the stillness, breaking through the noise we’ve been drowning in for days, weeks, maybe even years. It may show up in the middle of a conversation, during a walk outside, while you’re journaling, or even as you simply sit in silence with yourself.

And suddenly, the fog lifts.

That one moment of clarity might be:

  • Realizing it’s time to let go of what no longer serves you.
  • Understanding that you’ve been enough all along.
  • Choosing peace over pressure.
  • Seeing a situation for what it truly is—not what fear made it seem.
  • Or just deciding you’re ready for something new, something better.

We often underestimate the power of one moment. But that moment can become the seed of transformation—the turning point that leads to change, growth, and renewal.

I’ve learned to celebrate these small awakenings. I’ve come to see them as sacred gifts. They might not solve everything instantly, but they remind me that I’m still growing, still listening, still evolving.

If you’ve had a moment like that recently—hold onto it. Let it guide your next steps. Let it anchor you when things feel unsure. You don’t need to have it all figured out. Sometimes, one clear step is more than enough.

And if you’re still waiting for that moment? Be patient. It will come. The heart knows how to find its way through.

Today, I celebrate the power of just one moment of clarity—because one moment is sometimes all it takes to change everything.