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17 Promises I Choose to Live By : Then & Now

Posted on by rachaelathomasj

Truth be told this is my then followed by my now.

The then was created some 10 years ago:

My personal code of ethics: Statement of Purpose:

This is a personal guide which will serve as a source of inspiration and as a reminder of things I must always be mindful of, especially when I am faced with challenges. It will help me to realise my long-term goals and mirrors my beliefs and my values.

What function is this expected to serve in my life?

This will serve as a daily reminder of what I believe in and a source of encouragement that will help me to become a better well-rounded individual who endeavours to be happy, have peace of mind, and be the best that I can be. I sincerely promise to use the ‘I will’ list below to do that.

Personal Commitments

  1. I will remember, ‘Carpe diem!’ (Seize the day!) and let it be my motto.
  2. I will continue to treat others in the very same manner that I would like to be treated.
  3. I will continue to develop myself professionally.
  4. I will try to inculcate good values and morals in those I interface with (including those under my charge).
  5. I will always be mindful that some things cannot be changed; that is, not everything is within my reach, and I must accept them for what they are… simply, ‘Don’t worry about what you cannot change’ and ‘Qué sera sera!’ (Whatever will be will be).
  6. I will always thank God for my blessings. I have faced many challenges and overcome each of them—such as not being able to hold things, write properly at times, or walk properly. To date, I have 12 O’ Levels, 4 A’ Levels, a BA in English, and my BA in Mass Communication is my second degree. I have a full-time job now. I can look back and say I’m happy with some of the things I did and encourage others to turn their challenges into successes.
  7. I will continue to give credit where credit is due… everyone deserves to be appreciated.
  8. I will continue to move ahead with realistic goals. Thankfully, both my sense of maturity and being realistic have helped me value the relationships I build.
  9. I will continue to remember that everything happens for a reason… it makes it easier to walk around with less emotional baggage and eliminates chances of dumping it on others.
  10. I will continue fulfilling the responsibilities entrusted to me because shirking responsibilities means denying others their rights.
  11. I will always do my best in all that I do rather than giving up before starting or giving up in the middle of what I am doing because the end will be closer in sight.
  12. I will always look for something positive out of every negative experience, and I will use the ‘scissors of life’ to cut out negativity. Negativity breeds negativity and vice versa.
  13. I will use great care, consideration, and dedication to my values and morals to find amicable solutions to problematic situations and ethical dilemmas by always considering the consequences of my actions as it relates to all my dealings and those affected.
  14. I will focus on improving my health and try to get the required amount of rest because if I do not take care of myself, I cannot take care of anyone needing my help.
  15. I will continue to develop my spirituality and be a devotee of God.
  16. I will try to exercise good judgment at all times.
  17. I will review my personal code of ethics periodically and strive to make necessary improvements where possible.

This is my now: Living My Personal Code of Ethics

Life is about the values that guide you through both the highs and the lows. My personal code of ethics isn’t just a list I wrote once; it’s something I try to live by every day.

At the core of everything is a simple mindset: Carpe diem—seize the day. I try to make the most of every opportunity while remembering to treat others the way I would like to be treated. Respect, kindness, and fairness are not optional; they are the foundation of every meaningful interaction.

Growth is also important to me. I continue to develop myself professionally while encouraging and guiding those I interact with, especially those under my care. At the same time, I’ve learned to accept that not everything is within my control. Some things simply are what they are, and finding peace in that—embracing the idea of “what will be, will be”—has helped me tremendously.

Gratitude plays a huge role in my life. Despite the challenges I’ve faced, I remain thankful. Those experiences have shaped me, strengthened me, and allowed me to encourage others to turn their struggles into success. They remind me that resilience is built, not given.

As I move forward, I focus on being realistic, appreciating others, and valuing the relationships I build. I remind myself that everything happens for a reason, which helps me let go of unnecessary emotional weight and avoid passing negativity on to others.

Responsibility is another principle I take seriously. Fulfilling what is entrusted to me matters because failing to do so affects others. That’s why I always strive to give my best, even when it’s difficult, because every step forward brings me closer to the end goal.

I also make a conscious effort to find positivity in every situation. Life will always present challenges, but I believe in cutting out negativity and choosing a mindset that promotes growth and peace.

In dealing with others, I aim to act with care, integrity, and fairness. Ethical decisions aren’t always easy, but considering the impact of my actions helps me navigate even the most difficult situations.

Equally important is taking care of myself. I’ve learned that I cannot pour into others if I am running on empty. Rest, health, and balance are not luxuries—they are necessities.

My spirituality continues to guide me, grounding me in faith and helping me stay aligned with my values. Alongside this, I strive to exercise good judgment in all that I do.

Finally, I remind myself that growth is ongoing. I revisit my values, reflect on my actions, and make adjustments where needed. Becoming better is a continuous process, not a final destination.

Posted in Celebrating Life, Life, Life lessons, Mindset

Why “What Is” Is Better Than “What Ifs”

Posted on by rachaelathomasj

There is a quiet habit many of us fall into without even realizing it. It begins with a simple question: what if?

What if I had made a different decision?
What if I had said something sooner?
What if things had unfolded another way?
What if someone had chosen differently?

At first, these thoughts seem harmless. They feel like reflection, like the mind trying to make sense of something that did not turn out the way we once hoped. But if we are honest with ourselves, what ifs can slowly become a place where we spend far too much time.

A place where the mind keeps circling back, trying to recreate a version of life that never actually existed.

The problem with what if is that it lives entirely in imagination. It is a space where the story can always be rewritten, where the outcome can always be softer, kinder, or more favorable than what really happened. In that imagined version, the timing works out better. People say the right things. Circumstances align in ways that feel perfect.

But life rarely unfolds like that.

Real life is layered. It is complex. It carries moments of joy, moments of disappointment, unexpected detours, and lessons that sometimes only make sense much later. And that is where what is becomes far more powerful than what if.

Because what is is grounded in reality.

What is is the life you are living right now — the one shaped by every decision, every experience, every closed door and every open one. It may not always look like the version you once imagined, but it carries something much more valuable than imagination: truth.

Truth gives you something to stand on.

When you accept what is, you give yourself the opportunity to grow. You begin to see situations more clearly, without the soft filters that what if tends to place over the past. You begin to understand why certain things unfolded the way they did. Sometimes you realize that what you once thought was a loss was actually a redirection.

And sometimes you realize that the version you were holding onto in your mind was never as perfect as it seemed.

Our minds have a way of editing memories. When we think about what might have been, we often remove the difficult parts and highlight only the pieces that feel comforting. Suddenly the imagined version of events becomes far more appealing than the reality we experienced.

But that imagined version is incomplete.

It does not include the challenges that would have come along with it. It does not include the lessons you might have missed, the strength you might never have developed, or the growth that came from navigating the situation as it actually happened.

And growth is one of the most valuable gifts that what is gives us.

Life shapes us through real experiences, not imagined ones. Through moments where we learn to adapt, adjust, and sometimes rebuild. Through times where we are forced to see things differently, to let go of expectations we once held tightly, and to open ourselves to paths we had not considered before.

There is a quiet strength that comes from accepting reality as it is.

Acceptance does not mean you agree with everything that happened. It does not mean you pretend certain moments did not hurt or that disappointments did not matter. Acceptance simply means you stop trying to rewrite a chapter that has already been written.

It means you stop asking what if and begin asking, what now?

That shift is powerful.

Because the moment you start focusing on what now, your energy returns to the present — the only place where real change can actually happen.

You begin to notice the opportunities that exist right in front of you. The small openings that were always there but may have gone unnoticed while your attention was focused on the past. The new connections, ideas, and possibilities that can only emerge when you are fully present in the life you are living.

And sometimes, as time passes, something surprising happens.

You begin to see that the life you once questioned has quietly become a life that fits you better than the one you imagined. The detours that once frustrated you start to make sense. The doors that closed reveal the paths they cleared for you to walk.

Not everything that did not happen was meant to happen.

Not every opportunity that slipped away was meant to stay.
Not every person who left your life was meant to remain in your story.

Some things were simply stepping stones — moments that guided you toward where you were meant to be next.

That is why what is holds so much quiet wisdom.

It grounds you in the present. It invites you to learn from what has already unfolded. It allows you to build something meaningful from the life you are actually living rather than the life that only exists in imagination.

And when you begin to truly embrace what is, something within you softens.

You stop fighting the past.
You stop measuring your life against imagined outcomes.
You stop carrying questions that can never truly be answered.

Instead, you begin to appreciate the richness of the life that is unfolding right now — imperfect, surprising, and sometimes even better than what you once thought you wanted.

Because the truth is, the present moment holds far more possibility than what if ever will.

What if can only look backward.

But what is has the power to move your life forward.

Posted in Celebrating Existence, Celebrating Life, International Women's Day, international womens day 2026, Life, Love and Blessings

Celebrating International Women’s Day 2026

Posted on by rachaelathomasj

Every year, International Women’s Day gives us a moment to pause and reflect. It is more than a date on the calendar or a collection of social media posts. It is a reminder of the strength, resilience, wisdom, and determination that women carry every single day.

When I think about what this day represents, I am reminded that the story of women has always been one of perseverance. Women have always found ways to build, nurture, guide, and lead — often quietly and without seeking recognition.

Their impact, however, is undeniable.

Women hold families together. They shape communities. They nurture dreams, encourage growth, and often stand as pillars of strength for those around them. In addition to this while many of these contributions may not always be celebrated publicly, their influence runs deep.

International Women’s Day gives us the opportunity to acknowledge those contributions — both the visible and the unseen.

For me, this day also holds a very personal meaning because it reminds me of the women in my own life.

Most especially, my mother.

A mother’s influence is something that shapes you long before you truly understand it. Through her guidance, her sacrifices, and the example she sets, she teaches lessons that quietly become part of who you are. Strength, resilience, patience, faith, compassion — many of these qualities are first learned by watching the women who raise us. My mother has been one of those steady forces — someone whose presence, wisdom, and support has played a significant role in my life and throughout my life to date.

I am deeply grateful for the women in my family and extended family who, across generations, have helped shape the story of who we are. Each of them carries a quiet and unique strength — nurturing their families, supporting one another through life’s challenges, and celebrating each other’s victories along the way. Their love, resilience, and care have created a legacy that continues to guide and inspire. Today, I celebrate them, and I celebrate every woman this message reaches, as well as all the women I am blessed to have in my life — family and otherwise, both young and not so young — whose presence, wisdom, and friendship make life richer in so many ways.

Together you remind me that strength does not always appear loudly. Often it appears in quiet perseverance — in the daily commitment to care, to guide, to encourage, and to keep going even when life demands much from them.

So today, I celebrate you.

I celebrate my mother.
I celebrate the mothers in my family.
And I celebrate the countless women everywhere whose love, wisdom, and determination continue to shape the lives around them.

International Women’s Day is also a moment to reflect on the journey of women as a whole — how far we have come and the possibilities that still lie ahead.

Because progress does not happen by accident.

The opportunities many women experience today exist because generations before us were brave enough to speak up, stand firm, and create change. Their courage opened doors that once seemed firmly closed.

And today, women continue to walk through those doors as leaders, entrepreneurs, educators, innovators, and changemakers in every field imaginable.

But even as we celebrate progress, there are a few gentle reminders that women everywhere should carry with them.

Ten Things Women Should Always Remember

1. Your voice matters.
Never underestimate the power of your thoughts, ideas, and perspective.

2. Your strength is not always loud.
Sometimes true strength shows up quietly in resilience and persistence.

3. You do not have to do everything alone.
There is strength in community and support.

4. Your journey does not have to look like anyone else’s.
Comparison often steals the joy of your own path.

5. Your growth deserves recognition.
Celebrate the progress you have made, even if it feels small.

6. Your wellbeing matters.
Taking care of yourself is not selfish; it is necessary.

7. Challenges do not define your worth.
They are simply part of the story that helps shape your strength.

8. You are allowed to evolve.
Who you are today does not have to be who you were yesterday.

9. Supporting other women creates powerful change.
When women uplift one another, incredible things happen.

10. Your presence in this world matters.
Never doubt the value you bring to the lives around you.

International Women’s Day is ultimately about celebration, reflection, and encouragement.

It reminds us to appreciate the women who came before us, to support the women walking beside us, and to inspire the women who will come after us.

So today, I celebrate women everywhere — their courage, their wisdom, their kindness, and their unwavering determination to keep moving forward.

And most importantly, I celebrate the women who helped shape my own life.

My mother.
The mothers in my family.
And the countless women whose influence continues to ripple through the world in ways both big and small.

Because when women grow, families grow.
When women lead, communities grow stronger.
And when women support one another, the future becomes even brighter. 🌿

Posted in Celebrate Today, Celebrating Life, Life, Love and Blessings

Celebrating your journey, even when your heart needs a moment

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Life has a quiet way of teaching us lessons we didn’t expect to learn, even when we don’t think or realize we need it or we are up to it.

Sometimes everything feels like it is moving along just fine. You are making plans, setting goals, doing what you need to do, and finding your rhythm. Then something shifts. A situation changes. A door closes. Someone you thought would always be there is suddenly not. Or maybe nothing dramatic even happens — things simply begin to feel a little different, a little heavier, a little uncertain.

And in those moments, one gentle truth often reveals itself: you need to keep moving forward.

Not in a rushed or forceful way. Not in the sense that you must pretend everything is fine when it isn’t. But in the quiet understanding that life continues, and so must you.

There will be seasons where things do not go the way you hoped. Moments where you sit with your thoughts a little longer than usual, trying to understand what changed or why something unfolded the way it did. It is human to reflect, to replay conversations, to wonder if things might have been different under other circumstances.

And that reflection is not wrong.

In fact, allowing yourself to feel what you feel is one of the healthiest things you can do.

There is nothing weak about acknowledging that something hurt you, disappointed you, or caught you by surprise. Life would be far easier if we could simply switch emotions on and off, but that is not how we are built. Our feelings exist for a reason. They remind us of what matters to us. They show us where we have invested our time, our energy, and sometimes our hearts.

So if something affects you, it is perfectly okay to pause and acknowledge it.

You can admit that a situation did not feel good.
You can recognize that someone’s actions left you disappointed.
You can accept that things did not turn out the way you hoped they would.

None of that means you are stuck.

Acknowledging your feelings is not the same as living in them forever. It simply means you are being honest with yourself. It means you are giving yourself the grace to process what happened instead of pretending it did not matter.

But after that moment of honesty, something else gently calls you forward.

Life still has things waiting for you.

There is still work to do.
Still goals to pursue.
Still moments ahead that you have not yet experienced.

And so, with quiet strength, you gather yourself and continue.

Keeping moving does not always mean making big, dramatic changes. Often it looks much simpler than that. It looks like getting up the next day and doing what needs to be done. It looks like continuing to show up for your responsibilities. It looks like slowly redirecting your energy toward the things that help you grow.

Progress, more often than not, is quiet.

It is made up of small decisions that no one else really sees. The decision to let go of what you cannot control. The decision to stop replaying a moment that has already passed. The decision to protect your peace and invest your energy where it truly belongs.

Sometimes keeping moving means leaving certain spaces behind. Sometimes it means adjusting expectations you once held tightly. And sometimes it simply means reminding yourself that one difficult chapter does not define the rest of your story.

Life has a beautiful way of opening new paths when we are willing to keep walking.

You may not always know exactly where the road will lead. There will be moments when you are simply taking one step at a time, trusting that clarity will come as you go. And often, it does.

Every step forward creates space for something new. Every step helps you grow a little stronger, a little wiser, a little more grounded in who you are becoming.

One day you may look back and realize that the moments that once felt like pauses were actually quiet turning points — moments that gently guided you toward something better suited for your journey.

That is why it is important to keep moving.

Not hurriedly.
Not forcefully.
But steadily and with grace for yourself.

Feel what you need to feel.
Acknowledge the moments that mattered.
And then continue doing what life is asking of you.

You do not have to have everything figured out today.

You simply have to take the next step.

And then the next.

Just keep moving.

Posted in Celebrate Today, Celebrating Existence, Celebrating Life, Life, Love and Blessings

Fun Facts People Don’t Know About Me

Posted on by rachaelathomasj

You might know what I do—but you may not know these fun little details about who I am. Here’s a playful peek behind the scenes!

1. I am an Editor with International Experience

I am a professional editor with experience on the international scale, working with diverse voices, styles, and audiences. I love refining ideas and helping messages shine clearly and confidently.

2. I blend Editing, Marketing, and PR

I also have marketing experience, which means I edit and advise with audience, visibility, and impact in mind—not just grammar.

3. I have over 10 years of experience in Communications and PR

With a decade of experience in communications and public relations, I understand how messages are received, interpreted, and remembered.

4. I Specialize in Crisis Management & Communications Planning

When situations are sensitive or high-pressure, I help individuals and organizations communicate calmly, strategically, and with credibility.

5. I’ve Been Teaching for 21 Years (Yes, I Started Very Young!)

Teaching has been part of my life for over two decades, shaping my patience, clarity, and love for mentorship.

6. I have 3 books available on Kindle

I’m the author of three books published on Kindle, allowing my work to reach readers across the world at the click of a button.

7. Words Are My Superpower

From editing manuscripts and marketing content to crisis statements and lesson plans, words are how I create impact. I have written over 100 press releases, done content for websites, helped a lot of people including students create competitive resumes. Thankfully it’s all in my portfolio.

8. I’m big on Recycling

Paper and bottles never go to waste with me. I believe small, consistent actions make a big environmental difference.

9. I do Google Reviews—when service is impeccable

When I receive outstanding service, I share it! My Google reviews have reached 80,000 views to date, helping others and highlighting excellence. See what I’ve posted to Google Maps
Level 6 Local Guide
https://maps.app.goo.gl/VNTfFfSuso4guBaK8?g_st=aw

10. My Blog has a Global Reach

This blog is read in 151 countries, with over 28,000 views—a reminder that words truly travel.

11. I naturally see potential

I quickly spot strengths—in students, writers, and ideas—and love helping others develop them.

12. Positivity is a Daily Practice

I actively choose growth, gratitude, and perspective, even during challenging moments.

13. Teaching still energizes me

Even after 21 years, supporting students’ confidence and success remains deeply fulfilling.

14. I’m a Lifelong Learner

I’m constantly learning—about communication trends, education, culture, and personal development.

15. Motherhood strengthened my skills

Being a mom sharpened my empathy, patience, multitasking, and problem-solving abilities.

16. Integrity guides everything I do

Honesty, clarity, and kindness are non-negotiable in my work and relationships.

17. I truly believe life is meant to be celebrated

Every season, every lesson, every small win matters.

18. I love design and I design nearly all of what I use.

On those rare occasions where I don’t use my designs, I give photo credits.

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Valentine’s Day 2026: Love That Filled the Screen — and Our Home

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Valentine’s Day 2026 was one with a difference. It was about devotion streaming across oceans, a simple shift from laptop to television — and a home filled with love with blessings flowing.

From Laptop to TV — Making Space for Grace

I began watching the Sri Hanuman Chalisa Parayana on my laptop — the sacred gathering taking place at Maharaja Grounds in Mysore, led by His Holiness Sri Ganapathy Sachchidananda.

The chants were powerful even through a small screen.

That was early morning (just after midnight here) and then I opted to get some rest as I needed to work. Later in the morning I went back on YouTube for Divya Nama Sankeertana. The kids who are early risers noticed and asked, “Is that Tataji?” I said yes and let them know He was live from India and asked them if they wanted to see Him live.

So, I switched from the laptop to the TV. They were listening to bhajans and trying to sing along.

And just like that, our living room transformed.

The screen grew larger. The sound filled the space. The sacred chants seemed to settle into the walls of our home.

There was something beautiful about that — simple, direct, unfiltered. They did not ask complicated questions. They just wanted to see Him. To watch. To stay.

In that moment, Valentine’s Day became about shared devotion.

Then came the next request:

“Can we see the Shuka Vana birds?”

So we searched and brought up the beautiful parrots of Shuka Vana on the big screen.

Instant joy.

The children laughed and began repeating what the parrots said — carefully listening, mimicking the sounds, trying again and again. The room filled with giggles and playful echoes of chirps and phrases.

It was lighthearted.
It was innocent.
It was full of life.

And somehow, it felt perfectly aligned with the sacredness of the day.

A Valentine’s Day to Remember

This year, love looked like:

  • A laptop becoming a TV broadcast.
  • A living room turning into a prayer space.
  • Children recognizing their Guru on screen.
  • Laughter while repeating parrots’ words.
  • Quality family time with the kids enjoying singing, seeing birds, making linkages and getting answers to their questions.

Distance did not matter.
Screens did not diminish the experience.

If anything, it reminded me that love transcends geography.

Valentine’s Day 2026 was not about what we received.

It was about what we shared:
Faith.
Family.
Joy.
Connection.

And in that simple act of switching screens, we made space for something much bigger — grace filling our home.

Jai Hanuman.
Jaya Guru Datta.

Posted in Celebrating Existence, Celebrating Life, Life, Love and Blessings, Spiritual Reflections

Celebrating 2025: Carpe Diem, Que Sera Sera, Semper Fi

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2025 was not a year I simply passed through—it was a year that refined me. A year of lessons (some very harsh ones), new beginnings, and quiet awakenings that required continued honesty, courage, and faith. It challenged my resilience and reshaped my perspective, reminding me that growth is rarely loud—but always intentional.

This was the year I truly learned the power of carpe diem—seizing the moment by showing up. Not perfectly. Not fearlessly. But consistently. I learned that progress is built in the daily effort, the small decisions, and the willingness to keep going even when motivation fades. Consistency matters, and 2025 proved that steady steps often carry more power than dramatic moves.

At the same time, I embraced the wisdom of que sera sera—understanding that not everything is mine to control. I learned to release expectations and trust the unfolding. There is peace in acceptance, and strength in knowing when to let go and when to stand firm.

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♬ Moments We Live For – In Paradise

One of the most transformative lessons of the year was learning to see things for what they are—not what I hoped they would be, not what I tried to make them, but what they truly were. That clarity brought freedom. It allowed me to stop over-explaining, stop forcing alignment, and start responding with wisdom instead of emotion.

Moving forward required deep faith—faith in the process, faith in divine timing, and faith in myself. It required resilience of the quiet kind—the kind that wakes up every day, shows up again, and chooses growth even when the road feels heavy.

@rachaelathomasj

#onthisday #vocênasceuparamudar #rachaelathomasj #celebratingexistence #fyp

♬ Vibes – ZHRMusic

2025 demanded bold decisions. Decisions that were not always understood, but were necessary. I chose boundaries over burnout, truth over comfort, and peace over people-pleasing. In doing so, I learned what semper fi truly means—being faithful to my values, loyal to my purpose, and committed to the person I am becoming.

This was also the year I fully embraced investing in me. My healing. My growth. My future. Self-investment became an act of strength, not guilt. And through it all, I rose—again and again—like the phoenix, not untouched by the fire, but strengthened by it.

As I celebrate 2025, I do so with gratitude—not because it was easy, but because it was necessary. It taught me that showing up consistently changes everything, clarity brings peace, and faith carries you further than fear ever could.

I remain deeply grateful for the love, prayers, and unwavering support of my family and friends, for my children who inspire me daily to be strong and intentional, and for the mentors and quiet supporters who believed in me—sometimes even before I fully believed in myself. Their faith, encouragement, and presence, whether spoken or silent, reminded me that I was never walking this journey alone. In moments of doubt and rebuilding, their trust in me became strength, their prayers became covering, and their support became the fuel that helped me keep showing up, stay faithful, and continue moving forward with clarity and courage.

I step forward grounded, resilient, and clear—guided by the principles that carried me through:

Carpe Diem.
Que Sera Sera.
Semper Fi.

Here’s to continuing the journey—steady, faithful, and always celebrating existence

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Celebrating the Power of 1 Moment of Clarity

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Sometimes all it takes is one moment—one blink of insight, one quiet nudge from within—to completely shift your perspective.

It doesn’t have to be loud. It doesn’t have to be dramatic. But it’s powerful.

Clarity often comes like a whisper in the stillness, breaking through the noise we’ve been drowning in for days, weeks, maybe even years. It may show up in the middle of a conversation, during a walk outside, while you’re journaling, or even as you simply sit in silence with yourself.

And suddenly, the fog lifts.

That one moment of clarity might be:

  • Realizing it’s time to let go of what no longer serves you.
  • Understanding that you’ve been enough all along.
  • Choosing peace over pressure.
  • Seeing a situation for what it truly is—not what fear made it seem.
  • Or just deciding you’re ready for something new, something better.

We often underestimate the power of one moment. But that moment can become the seed of transformation—the turning point that leads to change, growth, and renewal.

I’ve learned to celebrate these small awakenings. I’ve come to see them as sacred gifts. They might not solve everything instantly, but they remind me that I’m still growing, still listening, still evolving.

If you’ve had a moment like that recently—hold onto it. Let it guide your next steps. Let it anchor you when things feel unsure. You don’t need to have it all figured out. Sometimes, one clear step is more than enough.

And if you’re still waiting for that moment? Be patient. It will come. The heart knows how to find its way through.

Today, I celebrate the power of just one moment of clarity—because one moment is sometimes all it takes to change everything.

Posted in Being Prayerful, Celebrate Today, Celebrating Existence, Celebrating Life, Life, Love and Blessings

When Helping Hurts: Staying True to Yourself Despite Misunderstandings

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Life has a way of testing the sincerity of our intentions. There are moments when you step forward to help, to comfort, to guide—and instead of gratitude or understanding, you meet suspicion, judgment, or even hurtful words. I’ve been there more times than I can count. Each time, I wonder: Why is it that when you try to do good, it’s sometimes met with anything but kindness in return?

Helping people is never just about actions—it’s about heart. I’ve always believed that if you have the ability to make someone’s burden lighter, even in a small way, you should. Whether it’s lending a hand, sharing advice, or simply being present, the goal has always been to leave a person better than I found them. But along the way, I’ve learned a hard truth: your good intentions won’t always be seen the way you hope.

Being misunderstood can cut deep. It’s not just the act of being wrongly judged—it’s the ache of knowing that your sincerity was overlooked. At times, I’ve walked away feeling like I should stop caring so much, stop trying so hard. But then I remember—my actions speak of who I am, not of what others choose to believe about me.

The truth is, you can’t control how people receive your help. Some will accept it and cherish it. Others might question your motives. And a few may even turn your kindness into a weapon against you. That’s the risk of living with an open heart. But it’s also the beauty of it—you keep planting seeds, even if you don’t always see them grow.

So what should you do when helping hurts—especially when people can’t accept your pure heart?

  1. Stand firm in your truth. You know your intentions. Don’t let someone else’s opinion rewrite your story.
  2. Release the need for approval. Kindness given with strings attached isn’t pure kindness. Give freely, and let go of how it’s received.
  3. Set healthy boundaries. Being kind doesn’t mean allowing others to repeatedly hurt you. Distance is not unkindness—it’s self-respect.
  4. Choose your battles wisely. Not every misunderstanding needs defending. Sometimes silence speaks louder than explanations.
  5. Stay soft, but be strong. Don’t let bitterness take root. Protect your heart without closing it off completely.

I’ve realized that being misunderstood doesn’t make me wrong. It makes me human. And as long as I’m acting from a place of love and integrity, I can live with that. I’d rather risk being hurt than live a life closed off to compassion.

In the end, kindness is a long game. Even if the world doesn’t always respond the way we expect, the quiet satisfaction of knowing you tried—really tried—is its own reward. And sometimes, the ones who misunderstood you today may look back tomorrow and realize just how genuine you were all along.

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Celebrating 15 Months and 178 Lists on Benable: My Why, My What, My How!

Posted on by rachaelathomasj

Fifteen months ago, I followed a gentle nudge — to share the things I genuinely love and use, not just with my close circle, but with the world. What began as a single list on Benable has now grown into an incredible library of 178 lists (and counting), each created with intention, honesty, and heart.

My Why: Serving Through Sharing

At the center of it all is a genuine desire to help others. I believe in lifting others up — whether it’s by recommending stuff I myself would use, offering inspiration through faith-based encouragement, or making someone’s day easier with travel ideas.

Sometimes people just need a little direction in a world full of choices. I share not to sell — but to serve. My lists are born out of real experiences, real needs, and real questions people ask every day.

My What: A Little Bit of Everything — With Love

My Benable space is filled with collections that meet people where they are. From self-care and wellness tools for moms and creatives, to smart toys for kids that make learning fun, every list solves a problem or adds joy.

If you’re preparing for a new school term, you’ll love my back-to-school picks. Need gift inspiration? I’ve got curated options for family gift ideas, gifts for teachers, and even book lover gifts.

For those looking for trendy fashion or those getting married, I have got you covered. If you are struggling with fibromyalgia or you have scoliosis, I have you covered. If your gluten intolerant or dealing with being lactose intolerant, I have you covered.

And if you’re looking for motivation or daily inspiration, my inspirational books list and motivational wall art bring encouragement into your space.

My How: Living What I List

I create each list with purpose. Everything I recommend is either something I personally use, have deeply researched, or trust enough to share with my own family. My process is simple — observe, experience, curate. I think of the busy parent looking to simplify mornings, the writer trying to stay organized, or even the artist or the student needing back to school essentials.

I also listen. Many of my lists are built from real conversations — like helping a friend plan a find food they can enjoy, or services they can benefit from, or compiling intriguing book titles based on what piques my interest.

And because I believe in living consciously, I’ve also created lists to support my diet and lists for eco-friendly habits and choices.

My Joy: Building a Trusted Space

The greatest joy in this journey is knowing that my recommendations have made a difference in someone’s life. Maybe it was a cozy home find that brought peace, or online courses that can help individuals realize their dreams. Even the smallest list, like my home and kitchen essentials, has the power to impact someone’s daily routine.

This platform has also allowed me to celebrate the little wins — like toys and book resources for little ones, feel-good product finds, or games that families can enjoy together or as simple as clothing for all family members.

Here are just a few of the 178+ lists I’ve created so far:

And that’s just a sample! You can explore all my lists anytime at benable.com/rachaelathomasj

What’s Next: More Purpose, More People, More Possibilities

This journey is only beginning. As I reflect on these past 15 months, I’m reminded that we all have something to share — something that can help someone else. Through Benable, I’ve been blessed with the chance to give back in a meaningful way, one list at a time.

Thank you to everyone who has browsed, clicked, shopped, or shared. You are part of this beautiful story. If you haven’t yet, I invite you to explore all my lists here — and maybe you’ll find a little magic too.

Here’s to helping, growing, and glowing — together. If you would like to join Benable please use this link https://benable.com/i/SW8FH. Benable allows you to share favorite things, and choose from 40,000 brands soskip the waitlist with my link.