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17 Promises I Choose to Live By : Then & Now

Posted on by rachaelathomasj

Truth be told this is my then followed by my now.

The then was created some 10 years ago:

My personal code of ethics: Statement of Purpose:

This is a personal guide which will serve as a source of inspiration and as a reminder of things I must always be mindful of, especially when I am faced with challenges. It will help me to realise my long-term goals and mirrors my beliefs and my values.

What function is this expected to serve in my life?

This will serve as a daily reminder of what I believe in and a source of encouragement that will help me to become a better well-rounded individual who endeavours to be happy, have peace of mind, and be the best that I can be. I sincerely promise to use the ‘I will’ list below to do that.

Personal Commitments

  1. I will remember, ‘Carpe diem!’ (Seize the day!) and let it be my motto.
  2. I will continue to treat others in the very same manner that I would like to be treated.
  3. I will continue to develop myself professionally.
  4. I will try to inculcate good values and morals in those I interface with (including those under my charge).
  5. I will always be mindful that some things cannot be changed; that is, not everything is within my reach, and I must accept them for what they are… simply, ‘Don’t worry about what you cannot change’ and ‘Qué sera sera!’ (Whatever will be will be).
  6. I will always thank God for my blessings. I have faced many challenges and overcome each of them—such as not being able to hold things, write properly at times, or walk properly. To date, I have 12 O’ Levels, 4 A’ Levels, a BA in English, and my BA in Mass Communication is my second degree. I have a full-time job now. I can look back and say I’m happy with some of the things I did and encourage others to turn their challenges into successes.
  7. I will continue to give credit where credit is due… everyone deserves to be appreciated.
  8. I will continue to move ahead with realistic goals. Thankfully, both my sense of maturity and being realistic have helped me value the relationships I build.
  9. I will continue to remember that everything happens for a reason… it makes it easier to walk around with less emotional baggage and eliminates chances of dumping it on others.
  10. I will continue fulfilling the responsibilities entrusted to me because shirking responsibilities means denying others their rights.
  11. I will always do my best in all that I do rather than giving up before starting or giving up in the middle of what I am doing because the end will be closer in sight.
  12. I will always look for something positive out of every negative experience, and I will use the ‘scissors of life’ to cut out negativity. Negativity breeds negativity and vice versa.
  13. I will use great care, consideration, and dedication to my values and morals to find amicable solutions to problematic situations and ethical dilemmas by always considering the consequences of my actions as it relates to all my dealings and those affected.
  14. I will focus on improving my health and try to get the required amount of rest because if I do not take care of myself, I cannot take care of anyone needing my help.
  15. I will continue to develop my spirituality and be a devotee of God.
  16. I will try to exercise good judgment at all times.
  17. I will review my personal code of ethics periodically and strive to make necessary improvements where possible.

This is my now: Living My Personal Code of Ethics

Life is about the values that guide you through both the highs and the lows. My personal code of ethics isn’t just a list I wrote once; it’s something I try to live by every day.

At the core of everything is a simple mindset: Carpe diem—seize the day. I try to make the most of every opportunity while remembering to treat others the way I would like to be treated. Respect, kindness, and fairness are not optional; they are the foundation of every meaningful interaction.

Growth is also important to me. I continue to develop myself professionally while encouraging and guiding those I interact with, especially those under my care. At the same time, I’ve learned to accept that not everything is within my control. Some things simply are what they are, and finding peace in that—embracing the idea of “what will be, will be”—has helped me tremendously.

Gratitude plays a huge role in my life. Despite the challenges I’ve faced, I remain thankful. Those experiences have shaped me, strengthened me, and allowed me to encourage others to turn their struggles into success. They remind me that resilience is built, not given.

As I move forward, I focus on being realistic, appreciating others, and valuing the relationships I build. I remind myself that everything happens for a reason, which helps me let go of unnecessary emotional weight and avoid passing negativity on to others.

Responsibility is another principle I take seriously. Fulfilling what is entrusted to me matters because failing to do so affects others. That’s why I always strive to give my best, even when it’s difficult, because every step forward brings me closer to the end goal.

I also make a conscious effort to find positivity in every situation. Life will always present challenges, but I believe in cutting out negativity and choosing a mindset that promotes growth and peace.

In dealing with others, I aim to act with care, integrity, and fairness. Ethical decisions aren’t always easy, but considering the impact of my actions helps me navigate even the most difficult situations.

Equally important is taking care of myself. I’ve learned that I cannot pour into others if I am running on empty. Rest, health, and balance are not luxuries—they are necessities.

My spirituality continues to guide me, grounding me in faith and helping me stay aligned with my values. Alongside this, I strive to exercise good judgment in all that I do.

Finally, I remind myself that growth is ongoing. I revisit my values, reflect on my actions, and make adjustments where needed. Becoming better is a continuous process, not a final destination.

Posted in Celebrate Today, Celebrating Life, Life, Love and Blessings

Celebrating your journey, even when your heart needs a moment

Posted on by rachaelathomasj

Life has a quiet way of teaching us lessons we didn’t expect to learn, even when we don’t think or realize we need it or we are up to it.

Sometimes everything feels like it is moving along just fine. You are making plans, setting goals, doing what you need to do, and finding your rhythm. Then something shifts. A situation changes. A door closes. Someone you thought would always be there is suddenly not. Or maybe nothing dramatic even happens — things simply begin to feel a little different, a little heavier, a little uncertain.

And in those moments, one gentle truth often reveals itself: you need to keep moving forward.

Not in a rushed or forceful way. Not in the sense that you must pretend everything is fine when it isn’t. But in the quiet understanding that life continues, and so must you.

There will be seasons where things do not go the way you hoped. Moments where you sit with your thoughts a little longer than usual, trying to understand what changed or why something unfolded the way it did. It is human to reflect, to replay conversations, to wonder if things might have been different under other circumstances.

And that reflection is not wrong.

In fact, allowing yourself to feel what you feel is one of the healthiest things you can do.

There is nothing weak about acknowledging that something hurt you, disappointed you, or caught you by surprise. Life would be far easier if we could simply switch emotions on and off, but that is not how we are built. Our feelings exist for a reason. They remind us of what matters to us. They show us where we have invested our time, our energy, and sometimes our hearts.

So if something affects you, it is perfectly okay to pause and acknowledge it.

You can admit that a situation did not feel good.
You can recognize that someone’s actions left you disappointed.
You can accept that things did not turn out the way you hoped they would.

None of that means you are stuck.

Acknowledging your feelings is not the same as living in them forever. It simply means you are being honest with yourself. It means you are giving yourself the grace to process what happened instead of pretending it did not matter.

But after that moment of honesty, something else gently calls you forward.

Life still has things waiting for you.

There is still work to do.
Still goals to pursue.
Still moments ahead that you have not yet experienced.

And so, with quiet strength, you gather yourself and continue.

Keeping moving does not always mean making big, dramatic changes. Often it looks much simpler than that. It looks like getting up the next day and doing what needs to be done. It looks like continuing to show up for your responsibilities. It looks like slowly redirecting your energy toward the things that help you grow.

Progress, more often than not, is quiet.

It is made up of small decisions that no one else really sees. The decision to let go of what you cannot control. The decision to stop replaying a moment that has already passed. The decision to protect your peace and invest your energy where it truly belongs.

Sometimes keeping moving means leaving certain spaces behind. Sometimes it means adjusting expectations you once held tightly. And sometimes it simply means reminding yourself that one difficult chapter does not define the rest of your story.

Life has a beautiful way of opening new paths when we are willing to keep walking.

You may not always know exactly where the road will lead. There will be moments when you are simply taking one step at a time, trusting that clarity will come as you go. And often, it does.

Every step forward creates space for something new. Every step helps you grow a little stronger, a little wiser, a little more grounded in who you are becoming.

One day you may look back and realize that the moments that once felt like pauses were actually quiet turning points — moments that gently guided you toward something better suited for your journey.

That is why it is important to keep moving.

Not hurriedly.
Not forcefully.
But steadily and with grace for yourself.

Feel what you need to feel.
Acknowledge the moments that mattered.
And then continue doing what life is asking of you.

You do not have to have everything figured out today.

You simply have to take the next step.

And then the next.

Just keep moving.

Posted in Celebrating Existence, Celebrating Life, Life, Love and Blessings, Spiritual Reflections

Celebrating 2025: Carpe Diem, Que Sera Sera, Semper Fi

Posted on by rachaelathomasj

2025 was not a year I simply passed through—it was a year that refined me. A year of lessons (some very harsh ones), new beginnings, and quiet awakenings that required continued honesty, courage, and faith. It challenged my resilience and reshaped my perspective, reminding me that growth is rarely loud—but always intentional.

This was the year I truly learned the power of carpe diem—seizing the moment by showing up. Not perfectly. Not fearlessly. But consistently. I learned that progress is built in the daily effort, the small decisions, and the willingness to keep going even when motivation fades. Consistency matters, and 2025 proved that steady steps often carry more power than dramatic moves.

At the same time, I embraced the wisdom of que sera sera—understanding that not everything is mine to control. I learned to release expectations and trust the unfolding. There is peace in acceptance, and strength in knowing when to let go and when to stand firm.

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♬ Moments We Live For – In Paradise

One of the most transformative lessons of the year was learning to see things for what they are—not what I hoped they would be, not what I tried to make them, but what they truly were. That clarity brought freedom. It allowed me to stop over-explaining, stop forcing alignment, and start responding with wisdom instead of emotion.

Moving forward required deep faith—faith in the process, faith in divine timing, and faith in myself. It required resilience of the quiet kind—the kind that wakes up every day, shows up again, and chooses growth even when the road feels heavy.

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♬ Vibes – ZHRMusic

2025 demanded bold decisions. Decisions that were not always understood, but were necessary. I chose boundaries over burnout, truth over comfort, and peace over people-pleasing. In doing so, I learned what semper fi truly means—being faithful to my values, loyal to my purpose, and committed to the person I am becoming.

This was also the year I fully embraced investing in me. My healing. My growth. My future. Self-investment became an act of strength, not guilt. And through it all, I rose—again and again—like the phoenix, not untouched by the fire, but strengthened by it.

As I celebrate 2025, I do so with gratitude—not because it was easy, but because it was necessary. It taught me that showing up consistently changes everything, clarity brings peace, and faith carries you further than fear ever could.

I remain deeply grateful for the love, prayers, and unwavering support of my family and friends, for my children who inspire me daily to be strong and intentional, and for the mentors and quiet supporters who believed in me—sometimes even before I fully believed in myself. Their faith, encouragement, and presence, whether spoken or silent, reminded me that I was never walking this journey alone. In moments of doubt and rebuilding, their trust in me became strength, their prayers became covering, and their support became the fuel that helped me keep showing up, stay faithful, and continue moving forward with clarity and courage.

I step forward grounded, resilient, and clear—guided by the principles that carried me through:

Carpe Diem.
Que Sera Sera.
Semper Fi.

Here’s to continuing the journey—steady, faithful, and always celebrating existence

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Celebrating the Power of 1 Moment of Clarity

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Sometimes all it takes is one moment—one blink of insight, one quiet nudge from within—to completely shift your perspective.

It doesn’t have to be loud. It doesn’t have to be dramatic. But it’s powerful.

Clarity often comes like a whisper in the stillness, breaking through the noise we’ve been drowning in for days, weeks, maybe even years. It may show up in the middle of a conversation, during a walk outside, while you’re journaling, or even as you simply sit in silence with yourself.

And suddenly, the fog lifts.

That one moment of clarity might be:

  • Realizing it’s time to let go of what no longer serves you.
  • Understanding that you’ve been enough all along.
  • Choosing peace over pressure.
  • Seeing a situation for what it truly is—not what fear made it seem.
  • Or just deciding you’re ready for something new, something better.

We often underestimate the power of one moment. But that moment can become the seed of transformation—the turning point that leads to change, growth, and renewal.

I’ve learned to celebrate these small awakenings. I’ve come to see them as sacred gifts. They might not solve everything instantly, but they remind me that I’m still growing, still listening, still evolving.

If you’ve had a moment like that recently—hold onto it. Let it guide your next steps. Let it anchor you when things feel unsure. You don’t need to have it all figured out. Sometimes, one clear step is more than enough.

And if you’re still waiting for that moment? Be patient. It will come. The heart knows how to find its way through.

Today, I celebrate the power of just one moment of clarity—because one moment is sometimes all it takes to change everything.

Posted in Celebrate Today, Celebrating Existence, Celebrating Life, Life

Rising in the Face of Adversity: When the Smiles Are Fake and the Words Are Hollow

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Life has a way of testing us when we least expect it. Sometimes it’s through quiet struggles—stress that no one sees, battles we fight in silence, or moments when everything feels just a little too heavy to carry alone. And in those times, what makes it harder is not just the adversity itself—but the smiles that don’t reach the eyes and the words that lack sincerity.

We live in a world that often tells us to “stay strong” without truly understanding what we’re going through. Some say, “I’m here for you,” but disappear when you need them the most. Some compliment us but secretly compete. They smile at us, but whisper behind our backs. And while it’s easy to become jaded, bitter, or withdrawn—there is something powerful about choosing to rise anyway.

Strength Isn’t Always Loud

True strength doesn’t always roar. Sometimes, it’s just getting out of bed in the morning. Showing up to work or parenting when your heart is heavy. Smiling back—even when you know the smile isn’t real—because you refuse to let the world change your softness.

Rising in the face of adversity means choosing authenticity in a sea of pretense. It means being kind even when kindness is not returned. It means forgiving—not because they deserve it—but because you deserve peace.

Fake Smiles Don’t Define You

You’ll meet people who pretend to care. Who say one thing and do another. Who clap when you win but secretly hope you lose. But their smiles don’t define your worth, and their words don’t reflect your truth.

Let their insincerity be a reminder of what you never want to become. Let it fuel your growth, not your grudges. Because rising doesn’t mean pretending everything is fine—it means facing what’s not, and growing anyway.

Your Truth is Your Power

You don’t need everyone to understand your journey. You just need to stay true to your path. Real light doesn’t need validation to shine. Keep doing your best. Keep showing up with heart. Keep speaking truth, even if your voice trembles.

And if you’re walking through pain right now—take heart. You are not weak. You are rising. Even when no one claps. Even when the spotlight is on someone else. Even when it’s quiet.

Keep Rising

Adversity will come. So will fake friends, shallow conversations, and fleeting applause. But so will your strength. So will grace. So will clarity. And the more you rise, the more you’ll recognize who’s truly with you—and who only showed up for the highlight reel.

Keep rising. Not because it’s easy. But because you were never meant to stay low.