Tag: integrity

Posted in Celebrating Existence, Life, Love and Blessings

17 Promises I Choose to Live By : Then & Now

Posted on by rachaelathomasj

Truth be told this is my then followed by my now.

The then was created some 10 years ago:

My personal code of ethics: Statement of Purpose:

This is a personal guide which will serve as a source of inspiration and as a reminder of things I must always be mindful of, especially when I am faced with challenges. It will help me to realise my long-term goals and mirrors my beliefs and my values.

What function is this expected to serve in my life?

This will serve as a daily reminder of what I believe in and a source of encouragement that will help me to become a better well-rounded individual who endeavours to be happy, have peace of mind, and be the best that I can be. I sincerely promise to use the ‘I will’ list below to do that.

Personal Commitments

  1. I will remember, ‘Carpe diem!’ (Seize the day!) and let it be my motto.
  2. I will continue to treat others in the very same manner that I would like to be treated.
  3. I will continue to develop myself professionally.
  4. I will try to inculcate good values and morals in those I interface with (including those under my charge).
  5. I will always be mindful that some things cannot be changed; that is, not everything is within my reach, and I must accept them for what they are… simply, ‘Don’t worry about what you cannot change’ and ‘Qué sera sera!’ (Whatever will be will be).
  6. I will always thank God for my blessings. I have faced many challenges and overcome each of them—such as not being able to hold things, write properly at times, or walk properly. To date, I have 12 O’ Levels, 4 A’ Levels, a BA in English, and my BA in Mass Communication is my second degree. I have a full-time job now. I can look back and say I’m happy with some of the things I did and encourage others to turn their challenges into successes.
  7. I will continue to give credit where credit is due… everyone deserves to be appreciated.
  8. I will continue to move ahead with realistic goals. Thankfully, both my sense of maturity and being realistic have helped me value the relationships I build.
  9. I will continue to remember that everything happens for a reason… it makes it easier to walk around with less emotional baggage and eliminates chances of dumping it on others.
  10. I will continue fulfilling the responsibilities entrusted to me because shirking responsibilities means denying others their rights.
  11. I will always do my best in all that I do rather than giving up before starting or giving up in the middle of what I am doing because the end will be closer in sight.
  12. I will always look for something positive out of every negative experience, and I will use the ‘scissors of life’ to cut out negativity. Negativity breeds negativity and vice versa.
  13. I will use great care, consideration, and dedication to my values and morals to find amicable solutions to problematic situations and ethical dilemmas by always considering the consequences of my actions as it relates to all my dealings and those affected.
  14. I will focus on improving my health and try to get the required amount of rest because if I do not take care of myself, I cannot take care of anyone needing my help.
  15. I will continue to develop my spirituality and be a devotee of God.
  16. I will try to exercise good judgment at all times.
  17. I will review my personal code of ethics periodically and strive to make necessary improvements where possible.

This is my now: Living My Personal Code of Ethics

Life is about the values that guide you through both the highs and the lows. My personal code of ethics isn’t just a list I wrote once; it’s something I try to live by every day.

At the core of everything is a simple mindset: Carpe diem—seize the day. I try to make the most of every opportunity while remembering to treat others the way I would like to be treated. Respect, kindness, and fairness are not optional; they are the foundation of every meaningful interaction.

Growth is also important to me. I continue to develop myself professionally while encouraging and guiding those I interact with, especially those under my care. At the same time, I’ve learned to accept that not everything is within my control. Some things simply are what they are, and finding peace in that—embracing the idea of “what will be, will be”—has helped me tremendously.

Gratitude plays a huge role in my life. Despite the challenges I’ve faced, I remain thankful. Those experiences have shaped me, strengthened me, and allowed me to encourage others to turn their struggles into success. They remind me that resilience is built, not given.

As I move forward, I focus on being realistic, appreciating others, and valuing the relationships I build. I remind myself that everything happens for a reason, which helps me let go of unnecessary emotional weight and avoid passing negativity on to others.

Responsibility is another principle I take seriously. Fulfilling what is entrusted to me matters because failing to do so affects others. That’s why I always strive to give my best, even when it’s difficult, because every step forward brings me closer to the end goal.

I also make a conscious effort to find positivity in every situation. Life will always present challenges, but I believe in cutting out negativity and choosing a mindset that promotes growth and peace.

In dealing with others, I aim to act with care, integrity, and fairness. Ethical decisions aren’t always easy, but considering the impact of my actions helps me navigate even the most difficult situations.

Equally important is taking care of myself. I’ve learned that I cannot pour into others if I am running on empty. Rest, health, and balance are not luxuries—they are necessities.

My spirituality continues to guide me, grounding me in faith and helping me stay aligned with my values. Alongside this, I strive to exercise good judgment in all that I do.

Finally, I remind myself that growth is ongoing. I revisit my values, reflect on my actions, and make adjustments where needed. Becoming better is a continuous process, not a final destination.

Posted in Life lessons, Mindset, personal growth, self-care

Celebrating Truth: Respect Costs Nothing, But Means Everything

Posted on by rachaelathomasj

You ever notice how a few simple words can completely change someone’s day? A kind tone, a little patience, a bit of respect—it goes a long way. And yet, somehow, it’s also one of the easiest things for people to forget.

Treating others the way you want to be treated isn’t just some old saying we leave behind in primary school—it’s a principle that actually shapes the kind of person you become. The way you speak to people, the way you respond when you’re annoyed, the way you carry yourself in everyday interactions… all of it matters more than we sometimes realize.

Because here’s the truth—people may not remember every single thing you say, but they will always remember how you made them feel.

And let’s talk honestly for a moment about something we see way too often— speaking down to others. That tone. That attitude. That subtle (or not-so-subtle) feeling of “I’m better than you.” It might seem small in the moment, like just a quick reaction or a passing comment, but it leaves a lasting impression. Words have weight, and when they’re delivered with disrespect, they can stick with someone far longer than intended.

Sometimes people speak down to others without even realizing it. Maybe it comes from frustration, stress, or even insecurity. But no matter the reason, it doesn’t make it right. Everyone deserves to be spoken to with basic human decency—no exceptions.

Respect isn’t something you give only to people you like, or people who have a certain status, or people who can benefit you. Real respect is consistent. It shows up in how you treat the cashier, the classmate who struggles, the coworker who made a mistake, or even the stranger who crossed your path for just a moment.

Being kind and respectful doesn’t make you weak—it actually shows strength. It takes maturity to pause before responding harshly. It takes self-awareness to check your tone. And it takes character to choose kindness, even when you’re not in the best mood.

Think about it—how do you feel when someone speaks to you with attitude? When they dismiss you, belittle you, or make you feel small? It doesn’t feel good. So why pass that feeling on to someone else?

Treating others the way you want to be treated is really about empathy—putting yourself in someone else’s position, even if just for a second. It’s about asking yourself, “Would I be okay if someone spoke to me this way?” And if the answer is no, then you already know what needs to change.

The world is already filled with enough negativity, criticism, and pressure. You don’t have to contribute to that. In fact, you have the power to do the opposite—to be someone who lifts others up instead of tearing them down.

And here’s something important—being respectful doesn’t mean letting people walk all over you. You can still set boundaries. You can still stand up for yourself. But there’s a difference between being firm and being disrespectful. One shows confidence, the other reflects poor character.

5 Simple Ways to Treat People Better:
• Pause before you respond – Not every reaction needs to be immediate. Take a second to think about your tone.
• Watch how you speak, not just what you say – Your delivery matters just as much as your words.
• Put yourself in their shoes – A little empathy can completely change your response.
• Be polite in small moments – Saying “please,” “thank you,” and “excuse me” still matters.
• Correct without belittling – You can address mistakes without making someone feel small.

At the end of the day, how you treat people says more about you than anything else ever could. It reflects your values, your mindset, and the kind of energy you bring into the world.

So choose your words carefully. Choose your tone wisely. Choose kindness, even when it’s not the easiest option.

Because it truly costs you nothing to treat people right—but it can mean everything to someone else

Posted in Celebrate Today, Celebrating Existence, Celebrating Life, Life, Love and Blessings

Fun Facts People Don’t Know About Me

Posted on by rachaelathomasj

You might know what I do—but you may not know these fun little details about who I am. Here’s a playful peek behind the scenes!

1. I am an Editor with International Experience

I am a professional editor with experience on the international scale, working with diverse voices, styles, and audiences. I love refining ideas and helping messages shine clearly and confidently.

2. I blend Editing, Marketing, and PR

I also have marketing experience, which means I edit and advise with audience, visibility, and impact in mind—not just grammar.

3. I have over 10 years of experience in Communications and PR

With a decade of experience in communications and public relations, I understand how messages are received, interpreted, and remembered.

4. I Specialize in Crisis Management & Communications Planning

When situations are sensitive or high-pressure, I help individuals and organizations communicate calmly, strategically, and with credibility.

5. I’ve Been Teaching for 21 Years (Yes, I Started Very Young!)

Teaching has been part of my life for over two decades, shaping my patience, clarity, and love for mentorship.

6. I have 3 books available on Kindle

I’m the author of three books published on Kindle, allowing my work to reach readers across the world at the click of a button.

7. Words Are My Superpower

From editing manuscripts and marketing content to crisis statements and lesson plans, words are how I create impact. I have written over 100 press releases, done content for websites, helped a lot of people including students create competitive resumes. Thankfully it’s all in my portfolio.

8. I’m big on Recycling

Paper and bottles never go to waste with me. I believe small, consistent actions make a big environmental difference.

9. I do Google Reviews—when service is impeccable

When I receive outstanding service, I share it! My Google reviews have reached 80,000 views to date, helping others and highlighting excellence. See what I’ve posted to Google Maps
Level 6 Local Guide
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10. My Blog has a Global Reach

This blog is read in 151 countries, with over 28,000 views—a reminder that words truly travel.

11. I naturally see potential

I quickly spot strengths—in students, writers, and ideas—and love helping others develop them.

12. Positivity is a Daily Practice

I actively choose growth, gratitude, and perspective, even during challenging moments.

13. Teaching still energizes me

Even after 21 years, supporting students’ confidence and success remains deeply fulfilling.

14. I’m a Lifelong Learner

I’m constantly learning—about communication trends, education, culture, and personal development.

15. Motherhood strengthened my skills

Being a mom sharpened my empathy, patience, multitasking, and problem-solving abilities.

16. Integrity guides everything I do

Honesty, clarity, and kindness are non-negotiable in my work and relationships.

17. I truly believe life is meant to be celebrated

Every season, every lesson, every small win matters.

18. I love design and I design nearly all of what I use.

On those rare occasions where I don’t use my designs, I give photo credits.

Posted in Celebrating Life, Helping Others, Life, Love and Blessings

Embracing Humanity: The Beauty and Struggles of Being Human

Posted on by rachaelathomasj

Yes, you have read the title correctly, but can you recall words that stay with you? A wise soul once urged me to be careful. The exact words stay with me each day and guide me. I interpreted it as not living with regret, being my best friend, being responsible rather than reckless.

What does it mean to be human?

Being human is a gift worth celebrating. We are blessed with the ability to feel deeply, to create, to love, to dream, and to connect with one another. But being human also means facing challenges, misunderstandings, and sometimes the pain of not being treated as we deserve. It is in those moments that we are reminded of both the beauty and the complexity of the human experience.

Reality

Not everyone will treat us with kindness, fairness, or respect. Sometimes, this happens because people are struggling within themselves—they may be carrying burdens we cannot see, acting from hurt, insecurity, or fear. At other times, it may be because their values differ from ours or because they have not yet learned how to love or respect others.

While it can be painful, understanding this truth allows us to respond with wisdom rather than bitterness. I have learnt not to let it prevent me from being me and to focus on always being a better me.

Coping

Celebrating being human means embracing both the joys and the struggles. It means realizing that while we cannot control how others behave, we can choose how we respond. We can rise above negativity by holding on to kindness, standing firm in our worth, and not letting someone else’s actions define our self-value. It may not always be easy but remember, it’s also not impossible.

Tough choices

And sometimes, the healthiest response is distance. Choosing to step back from people who consistently hurt, belittle, or drain us is not wrong—it is self-respect. Protecting our peace does not mean we love less, it means we love ourselves enough to set boundaries. We can still wish others well, pray for them, and forgive them, but we don’t have to keep them close if their presence keeps us from growing or steals our joy.

Reflection

At the same time, being human also calls us to reflect on how we treat others. I believe in treating others as we would like to be treated. Are we living by the same respect, patience, and compassion we hope to receive? Are we being the example of love that we wish to see in the world? When we celebrate our humanity, we are not just grateful for our strengths—we are also humble about our flaws and committed to growth.

The truth is, every person we meet is on their own journey of learning. Some will bless us with love and encouragement. Others will test us with their actions and attitudes. Both are teachers. The ones who love us show us joy, and the ones who hurt us show us strength.

To celebrate being human is to embrace it all—the highs, the lows, the lessons, and the blessings. And when we understand why people don’t always treat us the way we deserve, we can choose not to let it break us, but instead allow it to shape us into more compassionate, resilient, and loving souls—while also remembering that it’s okay to walk away when necessary.

What can you do? Allow me to summarize what you can do on a daily basis, taking it step by step and bit by bit:

  • Focus on your self-care
  • Be your best friend
  • Find positives out of every negative
  • Keep your faith
  • Celebrate your milestones!
  • Be patient
  • Do not procrastinate
  • Be rooted in resilience

The question at the end of it all is, can you implement these suggestions? Also, what does embracing humanity mean to you? Please take the time to let me know and also take the time to share your suggestions!